V.M.
I do have a suggestion regarding potty training... DON'T DO IT! Seriously, you didn't mention how old she is, but please learn from MY mistakes. My mother only raised one kid (me) and she tried to convince me that she potty trained me at 11 months so I should do that with my kids too. Well, I raised five kids, and the oldest three still have problems to this day because of that "training" the oldest sucks her thumb, sleepwalks, and is a nervous wreck, (she is now 20) my second daughter (16) had hygine (toileting) problems, the third daughter (14) still wets the bed and has to use adult diapers. People who think they potty trained their kids at some ridiculous age actually just trained themselves (ever notice they are always the high-strung types?) to learn when their kids had to go.
After making my older children (and me) suffer all those years, I finally decided that the third child, (a boy) could go to school in diapers if he wanted to, I wouldn't be going thru all THAT again. Well, guess what? Have you ever seen a grown up (without mental defect) who wore diapers just so he didn't have to use the toilet? No, neither have I, in fact i never saw a kid do that either. When they get old enough to be in control of it, they take that diaper off and get on the toilet, just like that. My 4th and 5th child were diaper free by 4 1/2, right on time. Easy as pie.
It takes a lot of patience to parent a child, even more for a child with special needs. You didn't try to make her walk before she was ready, and when she was, remember, you couldn't have stopped her. It's the same with anything having to do with growing. They grow whether you want them to or not, but you can't make 'em grow any faster, and really, why would you want to?
Tori