My Daughter and My Husband

Take up a hobby! Join the bowling league or volunteer at your local hospital for 3-4 hours one evening a week. This will give them time alone in which they HAVE to bond. It will also give you some time to yourself, which we all need. It will make your husband and daughter come to terms with your feelings and will make you feel better.

I've got the same problem with my 10 month old. My problem with daddy is that he just expects our daughter to sit on his lap quietly and watch TV with him. Maybe your husband needs to get down on the floor and play with your daughter more. Also, maybe let him get her attention playing (or just being with him) and try to leave the room and give them some bonding time. If you keep it up, she's bound to start being OK with being left alone with daddy.

I would suggest a Daddy-Daughter date. I know she is very young, but at that age, it's 'out of sight, out of mind.' So, if your husband is brave enough, let him take her for a stroll, or maybe to the park to look at the birds, leaves, etc. There are so many 'teachable moments' and there are things a dad can teach a child that a mom usually doesn't even think to teach (like what kind of tree they are looking at, etc.) She will probably cry for the first few times because she doesn't like to be away from you, but if he can tough it out, it will be worth it. They will bond and you will have a few moments of 'down-time'. Also, you could try five minutes, then ten, then fifteen etc., increasing the amount of time she is away from you. Hope this helps.

I do agree with the others that you should work on getting more alone time for them together. Though I wouldnt do huge chucks just yet. Toddlers and infants have no sense of time and a few minutes can seem like forever to them.
My youngest son until the past 2 years was total mom's baby. So for 4 years I could barely leave his sight. It was much worse his first year. When he was a couple of months old DH and I went out dinner. A very good friend was watching both kids. We came to pick them up and we heard crying from the end of the sidewalk. She told us that he started crying the minute the door shut behind us and hadnt stopped since. 2 hours he cried and as soon as he saw me he stopped. I was floored and didnt leave him alone with anyone again until he was about 3.
You have to know that kids go through stages and normally the first year of life they want mom and dad is just someone in the background. There exceptions like my nephew.
A neat trick you can try is while you are holding her have your husband sit on the couch or floor and then you snuggle in in lap or between his legs. Make sure she is facing you so she can see dad is there as well. Sit like that for a while. As she gets comfortable start sliding her off you and onto him. It takes a bit of wiggling to get it right but once you get the hang of it it is easy to do. This way you are off to his side adn your daughter should be on him. This way she sees you both. She will start to be more comfortable with him holding her after a while. Another thing make him get up with her at night if she wakes up. Yes I know he works but so does my husband and he would get up at night with both of our boys. It was a chance for him to sooth them and spend extra time with them.

I am not a stay at home mom - I teach, but I have had the same problem with my child ( b/c of when he was born 01/01 and the hurricane I stayed at "home" with him for the first 8months) He is fifteen months now and it is starting to get better - he and daddy now have things that they do together, he still wants me later in the evening, but now he plays with daddy some. the advice that someone else gave you is what we did. I would l;eave the house- go to the store, take a walk, visit a friend, anything and be gone less than an hour. My husband said my son cried when I first left, but once he relized that I wasn't in the house anymre (and therefor, not available)he calmed down. this really helped them find things they like to do together and I don't even have to leave for them to do them anymore. hang in there! I know how hard it can be not to get any break - no moatter how wondeful being momy is!!1

she'll probably end up being a daddy's girl. you should try leaving the house, like to run to the grocery for 30 minutes and see how she does. that will be a break for you, and give him one on one time. she will probably only cry for a few minutes then get over it. also, it will get easier on her the more she gets used to it. i'm 25 with 3 and i know it's hard, but you definitely need a little break to make you the best mom you can be. good luck!

Hi,I am a stay at home mom of 2. Before my 2nd child came I had the same problem with my daughter so, on the weekends my husband would take her out and do something fun just him and her. They bonded alot from that and that way mommy is not there so she doesn't any choice other than to be with her daddy. Another thing you could do is at bedtime tell her goodnight and then go outside or to the store and let her daddy read her a book and put her to bed,that way they can spend time together every night. I hope this helps you. Good Luck!

I agree with the answer Jennifer S. left. Try leaving her with him for a few minutes at a time. Set time to the side for daddy and baby alone. My son went through a more mild phaze of this and he would cry for a few minutes when I left but he eventually got used to it. It may hurt you a little but in the end it is for her benefit. If if continues like this, you will have a hard time getting her to go to school.