My Daughter.... - Johnson City,TN

I think there are a few things you can do.
Be determined to stay close with your daughter. Don't let her husband cut her off from her family, like lots of abusers do.
Second, always let her know that there's ALWAYS an option if she decides to leave. Let her know you are there for her and that all she needs to do is make a call and you'll be there for her and her son.
God bless.

I am sorry that you are going through this. I was also abused by my ex both mentally and physically. First, does she want to leave. Second, what is stopping her from coming home. I know that things stopped me from leaving. Money, my parents pressuring me and telling me they were right, and I was scared to uproot my kids. Also, the church and his parents telling me how sinful it was not to stand by my husband. If she cannot save the money without him finding it or better yet spending it. Then save it for her a little bit at a time, or start a savings and call all relatives. She will leave on her own time. I waited too long. He was an alcoholic and it took him getting into a car accident with my daughter. I know it sounds bad. I did leave him several times, but his parents threw church and forgiving in my face all the time. I felt like a bad mom. I was also far away from my parents. She might just be happy where she lives, just not with whom.

she will get tired of it I did and I filed a joint tax return had him sign it and used it to leave him. dirty but I was tired of it. Best way to help her is let her help herself. now if hes mentally abusive she may need reassurance that she can make it on her own. Hes telling her she can't and she needs to know she can. there is always the wemons shelter. Tell her the only reason hes telling her she can't live without him is really he can't live without her.
My ex told me this to keep me from leaving. and another guy admitted he tried it with his wife to try to keep her from leaving. IF she wants out she will find a way trust me. She will be sneaky even if she normally isnt. Can you send her money to come back to live with you or put up money for an apartment for her? If so that would help a ton and take away her excuse for staying. If shes just telling you she has no where to stay cause shes afraid of leaving then she has no excuse and will have to come to terms either you want out or you don't.

Does she want help? You don't mention if the two of you are in the same town. If so, wait until he will be at work all day and get her out of there. I did it and couldn't of felt better!

she has to want to get out of the relationship otherwise you are wasting your breath sadly. if she wants to leave, look in her area for a women and childrens center. they are all over the place and can help good luck

If she is wanting to get out of the relationship, help her make an escape plan. Find out where the nearest women's shelter is and the contact numbers for it. If she is not yet ready to leave, see if she will consider counseling or support groups. Many women who are in these kinds of relationships have their self esteem so beat down they can't imagine they can ever get out. Support groups cost nothing and can help a woman to remember who she once was and could be again. You might want to ask yourself if she is ready to leave (she has stayed with him for 12 years, after all) or is it just that you know she deserves better? Every woman deserves to be cherished, loved and truly seen by her partner. And sometimes all we can do to help them is tell them over and over "you deserve to be happy".
D.
Mom of 3
NaNa of 6
home birth midwife

She has to do it. She has to want to do it...... She definitely needs all your support but it has to be her decision to move. There is another place out there for her to move. It will be hard but for her sake and her childs she really needs to move. God Bless You