Hi,
Totally know what you;re saying... i did the CIO method and it worked wonders for me... mine was 6 months old, and i was nursing, so he'd go to sleep at 8, wake up at 2 and then again at 5...and yeah, the 6 hour strech was great, but at that age he didnt need the 2 am feeding anymore... i had to do it.. i was misserable, it took me forever to fall back asleep after every feeding, and by the time i fell asleep, it was time to wake up again... i felt guilty for letting him cry, felt like a terrible mother at first, but you have to do whats best for you and your family... this is how i did it (and i had to wait for my husband to go out of town to do it, because he cant handle it, and for me to calm them both down was just too hard).. anyway, thats what i did: he woke up, i waited for 1 minute, went in and said "honey, mama's here, go back to sleep, i love you"... dont touch him, dont pick him up... LEAVE!!! cries again, wait 2 minutes, repeat, dont touch, LEAVE!!!!, then 3 minutes, then 5, then 8, then 12, then 15, then 20.. and 20 again.. and 20 again...my doctor told me this could go on all night... but it didnt.. as long as you consistanly keep going back and increasing the time, he'll get the point.. you're not being a bad mother, bad person... you're teaching your child how to self southe himself... at this point he doesnt know how to fall asleep on his own, and its our job to teach our children how to be self seficient and independent... the first night it took in total of 30 minutes of crying, the next night 15, the night after that, 5 minutes, and never again a 2 am wake up.. i kept the 5 am till he was about 1.5... i was nursing, so i felt like he needed it... More sleep makes a happier baby and a happier mommy... it took me 3 days, it might take you a little longer, and in a long run, its not damaging to their nerves or their self esteem, they will still love you in the morning and need you, and no, they wont resent you for making them cry...babies cry, it happends... my baby is 2.5 now, almost, and yes, here and there he wakes up at night, but then he goes back to sleep because HE KNOWS HOW... just be consistant, stick to it, and hopefully it will work for you... good luck...