My 6 Year Old Does Not Want to Go to Sleep at Night.

I am the mother of 4 little ones (8, 4 and 2,2 (twins)). My oldest 2 sleep together too. When the 4 year old has a fit because she can not be with me, we tell her that if she screams and yells, she will wake others up. Because of this, she will have to sleep alone so as not to disturb anyone else. I suggest that you walk your daughter back to where she sleeps with her sister. If she screams, lead her to a quiet spot for her to sleep alone where she will not wake anyone. You will have given her 2 options: sleep with her sister quietly, or sleep alone because she will wake others up with her screaming. The natural consequence for screaming becomes: sleep alone. Staying in her room all day the day after waking you is not naturally related to waking you. It is also far removed from the incident. Kids do not think in extended time frames like that. A consequence should be naturally related to the behavior and immediate if it is to be successful. You need to be firm and consistent in appling the consequence. You may have to lead her back to the quiet spot several times. I learned this method in a STEP (systematic training for effective parenting) class. I found it to be hugely successful. I also suggest googling the method and ordering a book. It has helped me with many related issues. Good luck!

Hi C..
I have a few tricks i use when my daughter says she is afraid. Depending on what she is afraid of. I bought a special light and it has a little night lite in it and we keep that on all night. THat can be used if she is afraid of the dark or afraid of monsters (monsters don't like lights ya know, oh and also, monsters don't like little girls, they only bother little boys-don't laugh, it works)I also bought a dream catcher that i have above her bed to catch all the bad dreams.
My friend uses a spray bottle filled with water and uses that as monster repellant. You can also give her something of yours, a t-shirt, a stuffed animal, a picture,anything and tell her this way mommy is with you all night.
If it is because she just wants to get her way, keep up the punishing and maybe start taking a toy away. Eventually when she sees she isn't getting her way, she will stop.

I was going to recommend monster spray as well. I think it might help if you get her a lovey/doll/bear that you tell her will protect her from any monsters and keep her from being alone when mommy leaves. That has to be hard. I am hoping this is a quick phase for you! GOOD LUCK!

I personally can't shed any light on the subject but...I can empathize. My daughters are 7 (will b this week) & 3 & i go thru the same thing. i still sleep w/them. On the nights I do leave the bed my oldest will wake up & come into me. It's difficult but I'm not sure punishment is the answer either.
Is there anything specific she's afraid of?? We've made monster spray--(water--glitter--& a little something for a pretty smell). We spray it around the room at night,under there beds,in the closet etc...Maybe that'll help. What about a reward system? If she stays in her bed one nite she gets something & then increase it GOOD LUCK, E.