My 4 Year Old Is Still Having Frequent Accidents

My sister was having somewhat similar problems with my neice. Going to the bathroom was a chore, but yet #1 is another story. She's 6 and still wears a pull up at night. She was next to impossible to potty train. Very smart little girl, and we thought she was just being stubborn and what not, but it turned out to be a medical condition. And of course, the more pressure we were putting on her to wear big girl panties and not wet the bed and herself, the harder it was on her. It was something she couldn't help.
Talk to your doctor again, ask him to check him over and make sure there's not a medical condition that's causing these problems

He does it at school? Could it be Nervousness or distracted? Would you say he has a great time at school or is he nervous there? A new enviroment? He might just be afraid to ask to go to bathroom or afraid to speak up. Sometimes my son has more accidents when he is very constipated. I give him 2 tspns of Milk of Mag helps him. Could there be possibly something going on at school? Check also to see if there is any variation of staff etc because different care providers can affect behavior as well? Most importantly -do not blame yourself.. boys do have there up and downs with the potty business! I have a 4 year old son and a 19 year old so looking back on the 19 year old he had accidents up to about 6.

I had the same problem with my little girl during this past summer between preschool and kindergarten. They do get so involved in playing they either don't want to stop playing to potty or they wait and then it's too late, which is the problem I had. I just stayed after her not to do that and she stopped. Good luck!!

My daughter was potty trained at 2yrs old. She'd have accidents about once a week, where she just kind of forgot to go potty and she'd pee on the floor. I didn't punish her but just would clean it up. She was embarrassed enough after she did it. Eventually, she'd just have accidents in her bed at night. Then they stopped. She didn't stop having accidents until she was 5yrs old.
He'll get there!

My twins have been using the potty for about six months now and they do the same thing, go 3-4 days great then both end up having accidents for two days in a row. I have yet to really figure out why because somedays it is while we have preschool and even days when we don't. I would talk to his teacher and ask her to send him to the restroom frequently (agree on a time amount based on how long your son can wait), remind her how upset he gets when this happens and ask her to help you. Our preschool is helping the other children in our twins class that still wear pull ups. Hopefully your school will help also. I wish you the best, I know it can be frustrating. Good Luck!

My 6 yr old is potty trained and has been for a while now, but every now and then he gets wrapped up in what he is doing or what he is afraid he is going to 'miss' if he gets up to go to the bathroom. I had this problem when he would do anything fun. This includes when he was in kindergarden. I spoke with his teacher about it and she frequently sent him to the bathroom...she would not just ask him becuase he would say no, but she would have him go to the bathroom and just try to go, just in case...well, now he even has an accident every now and then...including earlier this week at day care. But when I asked him if it by chance was because he was trying not to miss any fun he admitted it. We talked about it and I reminded him that he needed to sometimes take a break from what he is doing that it's not good for his body. I hope this helps, but hang in there, I hear boys are slower at the whole potty training thing than girls... :)

MY SON IS 5 YEARS OLD AND HAS ACCIDENTS SOMETIMES. THEKEY IS TO MAKE SURE THEY DON'T DRINK A LOT WHEN IT IS TIME FOR BED OR NAP. STOP THEM MAYBE AN HOUR EARLIER OR YOU COULD DO THAT AS WELL AS ANY TIME YOU WAKE UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT OR HAVE THE TEACHER AT NAP TIME WAKE HIM UP AND TAKE HIM TO THE BATHROOM. IT WORKS REALLY GOOD WITH MY SON. I WAKE HIM UP AND TAKE HIM AND HE GOES RIGHT BACK TO SLEEP AFTERWARDS.

My 7 yo had this issue but mostly bedwetting. The pediatrician says boys' urinary systems don't fully mature until about age 7, and true enough the incidents have become less frequent to currently rare. He couldn't help what his body wasn't ready for. We just reminded him to urinate throught the evening and right before bed, limited fluid intake in the evenings. And remained very patient, if it's truly his body not able to "hold it", we weren't going to hurt his feelings by being angry or reprimanding him. Maybe you could speak with your son's teacher and make sure she reminds him to go to the restroom at intervals, with a gentle tone. Embarrassment and shyness may have something to do with the problem. Being shy may make him say he doesn't have to go when he does. And never punish for it, they are developing their self esteem, and it could make the problem worse. I also found that reminding him to go, but not reminding of the bedwetting, kind of making it out as not that big of a deal, seemed to help. Letting him know it wasn't his fault, he's ok, and that I'm not disappointed in him when it happened. That seemed to give him more confidence and encouraged him positively to get over the problem. His dad was a little rougher sometimes and hurt his ego, and he seemed to have more rather than less episodes with that technique. Anyways, good luck!