Well, J., I wish I had some magic formula for you girl, but I am in the same sinking boat with you! HA! My son who will be four the last of June will STILL NOT POOP IN THE POTTY! I also tried the Miralax thing, which gave him diarrhea, scared him, and yes he did go in the potty like ten times but not once since then and that was three months ago. Yesterday I sat him on the potty off and on all day long and he wouldn't go. He will get off the potty, go hide and then go in his pants! I am at my wits end too. I just keep telling myself "everything happens at a certain time" but I want that time to be now. I have tried absolutely everything, treats, toys, stickers, charts, candy, suckers, taking things away, making him clean it up himself(which he loved and wants to do it every time now), a slight swat on the hiney (not enough to hurt, just enough to tell him it is wrong to poop in his pants), the Miralax, sitting in the front of the TV while on the potty, you name it I have done it! I am now just in a waiting game and dear one, you may be too. Sometimes these little ones need to be ready to let it go and get over the fear of it in their own time. Not much help, I know, but take heart that you are not alone in this! Good Luck! T.