My son has been needing a lot of attention or he is just wining to much for unnecessary things. He cries way to much. He is not really talking yet but he does know a lot of little words. I don't how to control it. It is getting a little frustrating. He does not have a father around and I only work at night. Does anyone have any helpful advice.
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I know what you mean!! I think it's just this age is so frustrating for them because they can't yet express what they want. My little one is the same way(he's 21 mo)and it does get quite annoying at times, but I try to look at things from his perspective and imagine how irritating it must be to want so badly to say something and be understood. I guess if you try to keep that in mind, it makes it easier to get through the next months!! One thing that helped a lot w/both my boys was teaching them some sign language. They picked up on it so quickly and then could communicate when they were hungry, thirsty, tired, etc. It's not difficult and you could find a book on it anywhere. I started around 9 mo, but your little one would probably learn fast being older. I hear it helps w/their speech as well. Good Luck!
my son also is a whiner...I thought he just inherited it from me..lol He is 27 mo old and still doing it. I talked to a counsler about it and she recommended that I may not be giving him enough attention...I am an office manager for a doctor and have a very demanding job...so hardly home. Now his sister who is 11 mo old is starting as well. They are fighting for my attention. What the counsler suggested is right when you walk in the door, take a moment to sit and hold him and give him 100% of your attention. Talk to him ask him questions about his day and so forth. Maybe let him show you his room, a toy, or even a movie. I found that my son only wanted me to pay attention to him. I didn't realize I was pushing him aside, to get started with dinner and other things. So now with his sister, I will hold her and sit him beside me and play with them together. It has worked tremendously, and also remember...alot is frustration, they want to express themselves and we don't know what in the world they are saying...just ask him to show you. It will get better I promise.
By 20 months old he may be getting frustrated because he knows so many words but can not seem to use them to get what he needs. Have you ever heard of ECI? They will come to your home and see if they can help and the initial visit is free. You can call 800-628-5115 to find a program in your area.
My son is alwo 20 months... and this past week, he has been the child of my nightmares!! He is only like this when he's teething, though... and right now he's getting his eye teeth. Usually he's very independant. The only advice I can give, is to not give into the whining. Make them ask "please" if they want something, and be sure to make him realize that whining doesn't get him anywhere. It might help him communicate more, as well.
Good Luck!!
-A.
Just wanted to say that you are not alone! I have a 22 month old daughter and there are times ( when she is tired) that she wines a lot as well. I think that it has a lot to do with the age though. My daughter can talk pretty well and let me know what she is wanting but sometimes she choses just to fuss about it instead of talking. Give it some time and it will all be better! Good luck!
