G.,
I know the difficulties you are having and can appreciate your frustration. I am a child care provider of 21 years and have helped others in your exact situation. I hope this helps you. The advice is a little of "this and that" that has worked for families of children I have had in my care. Feel free to use what works for you and leave the rest, as each situation is different.
1. Use a bottle with a nipple that closest match to your breast. Don't try to change it up too often. Rub some breast milk on the nipple to give it your scent. Also could have a shirt of yours laying near the babies face to provide some of your scent.
2. Do not be in the room when someone else is offering her the bottle. If possible do not even be in the home. Baby girl will know you are there! If possible I would even have the person offering the bottle be in a different location (room, home etc....) and not near the usual location where you breast feed her.
3. Have the person offering the bottle try holding the baby close to them as you would normally do, but if that doesn't work have them hold the baby w/the baby's back to the their stomach. Baby looking away from person offering the bottle.
I've had some say one way works and others say if baby doesn't see whose offering the bottle that this works for them. See which one works for you.
If you have some time to do it gradually over a couple days.....
Try getting someone to offer a bottle near her hungriest feeding, usually the 1st one of the morning. She should be hungry but not so much so that she is upset. Do this each day for a couple days at the same time. Then do this for 2 feedings for a couple days....and so on
Keep trying, do not give in! Do not breast feed her until her next feeding.
If you do not have the time to do it over a couple of days then you can try as the ped. suggested and not give in. She will eventually be hungry enough and take it. Though it is difficult for parents to go through it this way.
Like I said, take whatever advice works for you and your little one and leave the rest. Some babies like the scent and reminders of their momma. For some babies it makes it worse as then they are constantly reminded of their mom so they will fight it harder.
Good Luck and feel free to email me for any further specific info. I'd be happy to help you out!
D. B.
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