My daughter is 10 years old is in fifth grade and her best friend write her a not,that she is jealouse of her.The problem is this boy ask my daughter for a fifth grade dance,and her friend said she is in love with him since 1st grade,and now her friend tell her not to talk to him or play with him and she is very bossy acting like her mom and telling my daughter what to do,This is the note she gave my daughter:Dear S,I am sorry I was overreacting,I am very sorry!I rreally want you to be my BFF.I can't live without you.I need you.I want you,so I can talk to you.The reasonwhy i was mad,because I saw you playing with M I was jealous!Please forgive me,from L.My daughter think she just want to be her friend just becase the boy now doesn't talk to her friend and she just want to get close to him,because he is always sitting next to my daughter,I talk to her ,but i dont see anything like she is sorry all I felt from her is i hate and they hugh, but from her it look fake and she hugh my daughter very hatefull,also some kids from class told me she pretend to cry so everybody feel sorry for her and be against my daughter,but that didnt work for her,most of the girls are on my daughter side.Should I be concern about her jealousy,that she could hurt my daughter,like a mom i have bad feeling about her,i saw hate on her face!
My daughter is a good friend with that boy from 1st grade,and she never told her friends about the problem,that was the other girl who did and started talking about my daughter,but i think the kids know both girls and they know who is right or wrong,I told my daughter be her friend with her,but don't let her or anybody tell you what to do,she doesn't care about boys yet,she told me all I want is toys for Christmas.Will see what happen tomorow,she said she is going to tell her she is not mad at her,but we are 10 lets not talk about boys,but what we want for Christmas,and for the dance we all go together.
Perhaps this is one reason why a "5th grade prom" is a really bad idea. Never heard of such a thing! Girls this age can be so rotten to one another, with or without any drama involving boys. I'm very sorry your daughter is having a rough time. Encourage a little space between her and this "friend" and try not to over analyze what all of her peers are doing and saying.
The "friend" is fake, controlling, manipulative, and co-dependent. Run and don' t look back. Make sure the school authorities know what's going on so they can keep an eye on the situation if it gets out of hand.
I don't think anyone in your daughters group needs to get involved or go against the other girl. If anything they should remain neutral. Your daughter will have to make it clear to them that they should be nice to her too. The other child feels discomfort with everything that happened, and feels that everyone is ganging up on her.
Your daughter should also put her foot down, and not allow the other girl to be bossy with her. You will have to teach her that. It would be nice to remain friends, but from a distance. They don't have to be too close. These things will happen again and again. They both need to open their circle of friends.
- the word love is too strong a word to use at that age.
-Please don't call a fifth grade dance a prom. That is ridiculous, it's just a dance which should not be happening, and if it does, the parents need to go with for supervision.
Good luck.
