Moving On - Minneapolis,MN

unfortunately, it is just going to take time. if you both still have feelings for each other, then you may be able to make it work if you want to try again! but if not, then time will ease all wounds. The general rule of thumb is that it will take as much time to get over him as the time that you dated him. So if you dated for 2 years, it will take 2 years to truly get over him. i dont think that is true for all circumstances, but thats what most people say.

You know what? Even the dorkiest guy can all of a sudden become attractive when there's a new girl on the scene.

HOWEVER, you have a 2 year old son, so unless your BF's behavior was really egregious, you should try to work it out with him. It's best for your son.

The relationship is over. It's not a competition. Although I've seen divorced people get mad at each other because one moved on faster than the other and the other is pissed about it. You have to realize you broke up for the right reasons and you are better for it. Sure there will be things you miss, but you are not going to miss those things that drove you crazy (and the new girl is MORE than welcome to take all that nonsense). You have grown as a person, and you have a better idea what you need and what you can't live with. You will find someone who is a better match for you. Just shut the door on that last relationship so you can open some new doors to a bright new future.

Be strong. Remember all the chances you gave him, all the hurt you endured. Remind yourself that this break up was healthy for you & your son. Take this time to get to know yourself, your wants & needs out of a relationship, go to the book store & read some self help books. Do something that you always have wanted to do but never did. And most of all take this time to be the best mom to your son. Best wishes

No matter how hard the words were to here, you know now that the relationship is over and yes it is hard to here that the other person as moved on. It is hard in any situation no matter how long you have been together. Start by keeping in contact with your son's father but only on the basis of your son's needs and not your own. If you can, give yourself a break and indulge in some make-overs to spice yourself so that you can feel attractive to men. Take some time just for you and review your relationship and see why it didn't work. One day at a time and you will go on with life with a great outlook. Good Luck!

I know it's hard because my X husband had a new girlfriend after about 4 months of separating. That hit a nerve!! I just figured that she will learn after a while about his lies, manipulation, and abusive tendencies. Sure enough - it lasted about two weeks. I just sat and thought to myself about how much I had grown from my experience with him and I would think about all the things that just irritated me to no end. I have learned about most men that they fall back into their little comfort zone and bad habits when the road ahead starts to look good. Don't look back and just realize that you have done the best for you and your son.

You get over it by not romanticizing the relationship. Remember all of the reasons why you broke up with him. Just don't remember the situations or circumstances, remeber what they felt like. Reaffirm your decision to break up in your mind. Perhaps he was just coming back and saying all the right things because men hate to loose.

He is moving on. This is great for you. It gives you the opportunity to begin to move on too. We all learn from our past relationships. We learn what we want, what we don't want, how to be, how to not be, what we like and what we don't like. Pray he is always picking women you can respect and like (since he was trying to get back together with you it is likely he will pick someone with his perception of your qualities). Praye he picks women who will be fabulous to your little boy.

Now is the time for you to do things and go places. Explore the world around you. Get your son involved in activities. Go to parks, museums, children's plays, baseball games, swimming, tumbling classes for tikes, etc. Live life to the fullest. What are some of the things you always wanted to do. Maybe now is the time to get them started by branching out of your comfort zone and meeting new people and making new friends. In time you will discover this wonderful new life you have made for yourself and your son and then there will truly be no turning back and health and healing.

Time. As the saying goes... time heals all wounds. It's time to focus on your son and yourself. When those feeling creep up, remind yourself of all the reasons you left him.

I don't know that your feelings mean you're not over him. I think it's always hard to hear when our ex's move on, especially one that you have a child with. You can't just turn your feelings off like a light. You share a son and will always be a part of each others lives.

TIME. & keep yourself busy, explore new directions, & remember all of the frustrations you felt with him. Embrace the good.....your child together....& leave it at that. You have no control over his actions & you're right - it's time to move on. Peace!

I would like to know how you are doing with this situation today? I am in the same boat! My ex just moved in and on with someone after meeting her and knowing her 3 weeks!! We have a 17 month daughter and now Miss New Thing is trying to be all "new mommyish" and I am having a little bit of trouble accepting things right now. I feel moving on was best for both of us - it is just a whoa, it's over thing I guess!

Find a new hobby, or something to do with you little boy.....make him your focus right now.........

It's tough to get through this.......and I don't think it will take 2 years.....sounds like things haven't been good for a bit anyway...........so, look at it this way, it's better to know now than to have stayed with him and married him for him to cheat on you. Right? And, you are a smart woman........you can do anything you want to do.............I wouldn't date right away, since we seem to fall fast that way, but wait a few months and then say, hey, I deserve to be happy.........

I think everything happens for a reason, so, you have a great little boy and now know what you DON'T want...........this will make you better for a new relationship........

Hang in there and don't dwell on the past, look at the good things in your life and dwell on the future.....

Take care.