Mouthy Boy

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URGH!!!! Someone at school has been a bad influence on him!!! Or he's watching shows that you don't know about..

When he calls you by your first name - DO NOT ANSWER HIM..hard as it may be - DO NOT answer him.

If he says words he is not supposed to say - wash his mouth out with soap - Dial works - it tastes NASTY...some on here my blast me for that - but my daughter said something to me once and instead of smacking her - I washed her mouth out with soap and she NEVER said it again.

Make your rules and consequences known. If you break the rule - this will happen. It has be something he doesn't like - it time outs aren't working - then maybe you need to have him sit down and write "I WILL NOT DO XXX AGAIN" 100 times...

You need to lead by example - if you and your husband are saying things to each other - even if it's meant to be loving - a 6 year old might not be able to differentiate joke/sarcasm to "truth"

Punishment/Discipline needs to happen when the offense occurs - not when Daddy gets home, etc.

You must be FIRM. It's OKAY to be strict and FIRM... you don't need to yell. you need to be FIRM...

good luck!

First of all don't over-react. I can still remember when I called my Dad by his first name...and when my children called us by our first names..it is just something that all children do. After all they hear others calling you by your first name instead of "mom" so it is really kind of natural.
I am not a big fan of time outs...and I certainly don't agree with the idea of washing childrens mouths out with soap...I don't see what either of those actions teach a child...other than "Might makes right". TALK to him...tell him that this is just not the way we talk in this family...and if he is using those "bad words" to express anger or frustration...help him come up with acceptable ways to express that emotion. What are you teaching him by sticking him in a corner in "time out"....use those teachable moments to actually help your S. learn what is acceptable and proper...don't just punish him for doing something wrong. We all experience anger, frustration, fear and part of a parents job is helping their children learn how to deal with that.
Your S. is going to go through SO many different stages as he grows and learns...some of the much more challanging than others...just keep reminding yourself that "this too shall pass"

Not to laugh at your situation, but I have a 9 y/o S. who started doing the same thing around that age. I have been at my witts end with him at times because he seems to come in and out of this disrespectful behavior. Like you we have tried so many different approaches and sometimes it works and other times it doesn't. Thankfully he is the most kind and respectful person at school. We always get complimented by the school staff and his teachers. I know that when my S. gets more frustrated with school or a certain situation he will be more rude. I don't think he knows how to deal with feeling like he is not in control. He certainly doesn't like to be told what to do. He responds better when he feels like he has a choice. I got some great tips from "Love and Logic". Even if the choices my S. gets are not what he wants, at least he gets to choose what scenario would be best for him. We are also trying to give him a lot more independence. Letting him decide what he wants to do in certain situations and letting him fail. He has a very short fuse so this can be a challenge, but we try to make him understand that it was his choice that got him the result. It's a learning experience for both of us and I feel your frustration. As a parent it is impossible to control the way a child behaves. We have to understand that they are individual people with different personalities than us. What works for one kid doesn't work for another. It is a life long challenge from what my parents tell me. Lol. My mother-in-law feels my pain, because she said my husband was the exact same way when he was his age. The frustrations I have with my daughter, my mother laughs and smiles and says I know exactly what you are dealing with because I had to deal with it when you were little. I wish you luck on our wonderful journey of parenting.

If you do not believe in spanking then you need to stay on top of the time out techniques. This means one warning and then to time out in a corner. After which you do not talk to him until he completes his 6 minutes in the corner. And if he gets up it starts over again. Look around where he is picking up this language. Probably school from another kid. No tv or video games for 24 hours. Even at bed time. You cannot let him see it gets to you just putting in the corner and walk away and ignore him. If he sees it gets to you he will keep doing it.

Where is he learning this behavior? Does he hang out with other children in the neighborhood who may behave this way or has he been watching TV shows ect? How much attention does he get from you or your husband that is positive? He is acting out. When children act out for no reason it is usually because they crave attention. If none of these things address the problem, get him involved in an activity that uses up energy and teaches discipline like karate, soccer, football, ect.

Ugg! YOu sound as if you are writing about MY 6 year old boy!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one out there dealing with this. We aren't being called by our first names - he is calling me and his father "dude"!?!*! Oh gosh - it has been a while since I was 6 - I am sorry for everything Mum!! Roll on school...14 days and counting!!!!

we do writing assignments in our house. the handwriting has to be at its best or he does it over again. good luck...my S. is 12 and we are still having probs :)