Motor Mouth

Updated on September 19, 2010
L.B. asks from Berwick, ME
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My daughter is turning 9 next week and she does not stop talking!!! She has done this since she first started talking. If she is not talking to me she is talking to herself, the pets, or singing. She has a million questions and comments on everything!!!! She is soooooooo noisey, I cannot concentrate on anything because she does not stop talking!!!!! Anyone else have a chatterbox like this?

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Thanks for all your support --- She is still talking........................

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J.F.

answers from Toledo on

My oldest is almost 10 and I'll tell you she shows no sign of slowing down, lol. What has helped keep my sanity in the last 2 months or so is that I've allowed her to start chatting with friends on the phone or YIM. This way she satisfys her need to talk and I don't have to listen to who is liking whom at school or what the next iCarly will be about, lol.

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H.A.

answers from Bismarck on

9????...are you serious? Mine will be 7 in October! She'll still be talking like this for at least 2 more years??? UGH! Nope, you're not alone.

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L.S.

answers from Boston on

L.: My son is 16 (http://liaspiliotes.wordpress.com) and he can chat non-stop from the moment he gets up to the moment he is in bed and even then some. It can make your head feel like it is about to explode. He too talk to himself. I have learned that it is his way to sooth himself sometimes, but also a way to annoy me. I have found that the best way for me to deal with it is to simply leave the room. If I ask for quiet time and I don't get it, then I tell him I am going to take a break and need some private time. I have had to learn to take care of myself, even if that means walking away. I am not sure if this helps. My son is an autism spectrum child, but also a full fledged teenager. Not sure if this is helpful, but my personal experience with a chatterbox. L.

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J.C.

answers from Columbus on

My daughter, who is almost 7, is also a Chatty Kathy...I don't have any advice, but you are NOT alone! I'll be keeping an eye out to see what kind of coping mechanisms are recommended :)

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A.L.

answers from Las Vegas on

hi there
It's a tough call on this one.. My son talks quite a bit, although not every waking minute, but for his age, he is VERY inquisitive and does ask a lot of questions. At times, I am not in the mood to answer another question, but I do.. I do because I don't want to diminish his zeal for life and of the wonder and amazement he has with most things (hence all the questions)
All too often, as kids get older, we tell them things like sit still (then later on we worry they are too fat) or hush up (then later on, we wonder why they don't ask enough questions) it's a fine line because you don't want her to lose such intrigue she seems to have for life... When asked a question or two.. :) you could say, give me a little time and I will answer that question. There are plenty of times when I don't answer a question on the spot (depending what it is of course) and I tell my son, give me a few minutes he so I can think of a proper answer.. (he often ask me the definition of things) :) ... so he will wait patiently..
I think it is true girls are a bit more chatty than boys. the girls in my son's class are ALWAYS more talkative. Then I think the teen years hit and that may change.. (or could) Therefore, I think this may be something you want to take a different perspective on.. in other words, you might want to enjoy the "noise" for now.. one of these days, she is sure to change and you may miss it. See it perhaps as her having a zeal for life and really, wouldn't it be more great if we all did..

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M.M.

answers from Washington DC on

My daughter used to go to sleep talking and wake up in midsentence. She also talked in her sleep.
She is 15 and either constantly on her Yahoo, no facebook here, or she comes and chats with me, and will say to her brother and sister, It's my turn, I'm talking to mommy. She's always talking to mommy!! haha
So No, I have no advice, just I feel for ya.

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S.A.

answers from New York on

She sounds like a really happy child. The telephone is a great idea! You should get an i-pod! and headphones!
On the other hand, I have one child that never says a word. That drives me crazy!! he's almost nine, hes vey smart and always thinking about something but dosent talk. Even when I ask him a question, it takes 3 or 4 trys before he "hears" me. He blocks out the outside because he's busy thinking and cant switch gears quickly. Very frustrating!!!
Count your blessings. Maybe your daughter can call my son and get him to talk!! haha

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C.D.

answers from Louisville on

Im sorry to say I dont have any advice for you. I am just sad to know your daughter still does this at nine. Mine is three and NEVER stops talking. I cant have phone conversations or talk to my son because she is ALWAYS talking. She makes up songs, she sings all the songs she knows, she sings with the radio, she is noisey and wants to know who called or who I called and what they wanted. It is really hard to deal with when I talk on the phone all day at work. HA Guess I know where she gets it. Mine gets her tonsils out in a few weeks I bet she will still be talking even with a sore throat. Only thing I can tell you is YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

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A.C.

answers from Houston on

Sometimes I go little nuts from all the three year old crazy talk.

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L.A.

answers from Austin on

Ha.. I wonder here she learned it? I am the same way, I can talk all day long.. When I am with my friends we all talk at once and can understand everything everyone said.. My daughter say we "should be in the Circus, cause we are like freaks".. hee, hee..

Anyway, I gave my daughter" permission to not have to talk all of the time."

She was an early talker and when she was in her car seat to keep her calm I would speak to her about all sorts of things.. When she began to talk, I would ask her questions to keep her engaged.. Unfortunately it also taughtt her to talk nonstop..

So one day she was going on and on about, who knows? And I said "You know what? I do not think I have ever told you this, but it IS ok to not talk all of the time. I am sorry, I must drive you nuts, because mommy talks so much.. Lets try to be quiet and listen to a story.". SO I turned on a Book on tape and we learned that we really enjoyed being read to in the car..

She still uses that kine on me every once in a while.. Stinker..

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L.T.

answers from New York on

I *was* a chatterbox like this. Sorry to say, at 32 I am still a constant talker/singer! About the only thing that ever shut me up reliably was a good book.

Not sure how healthy it would be, but you could try getting her in some sort of kid-friendly chat group online for a limited time each day - so she can keep "talking", but without the sound. And she'll learn valuable typing skills :)

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N.B.

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My 4 yr old talks non-stop. We play a "quiet game" now with a reward for the person who is able to not talk for 5 minutes. WE also have "quiet time" in our rooms for an hour. That seems to help and give me back some sanity.

One good thing is...she could use these skills in the debate team later on or be a teacher/lecturer..lol.

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A.S.

answers from New York on

I feel your pain. My daughter is almost 4 years old, and has been talking non stop since she was around 2. I am amazed that someone can talk that much, without getting a sore throat. While it does frustrate me, I am happy that she is so expressive. Because she is so articulate, I never have to wonder what she is feeling. However, there are days that I definitely wish for ear plugs!

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

Um well, my son, was speech delayed.... and had speech therapy until he was ALMOST 3 years old.
Well... since then... he has officially become, the MOST MOST MOST talkative one in our family.
NON-stop talking/questions/answers/comments/noises/songs/anything... verbal. He is SO talkative.
Even in his sleep, he sometimes talks.

But... he asks good questions.... and he really surprises me and has such QUICK come backs to things.
I find it interesting.
But my ears.. do.get.tired.

all the best,
Susan

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I.S.

answers from New York on

My daughter is 26 months. Something is starting up. We were driving to our destination and she was singing, and blabbing away. I've recorded several CD's of old favorite songs of mine from the 80's for her and her brother, so now when we're in the car they listen and sing. I don't mind listening to the good old 80's music, and they too have gotten hooked. I also liked the idea of putting reading material while we drive. That's next.

Unfortunately, I zone out when they chat up a lot at the table for lunch or dinner. It happens...

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R.M.

answers from New York on

My 3 year old is speech delayed and doesn't say much of anything. What he does say is very difficult to understand. I wish so badly I knew what he was thinking and I pray every day that one day I'll have a real conversation with him.

I know a non-stop talker must be frustrating to deal with, but count your blessings, it could be worse.

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S.S.

answers from Binghamton on

Boy, does this bring back memories! I am the chatterbox in my family. When I was younger my Mother (she was a single mom and a little strict) set boundaries on when I can ask a question/talk.. For example, if my Mom was talking to someone I had to wait until she was done and say excuse me and then I had to wait for her permission. She also set aside every day that I had her undivided attention and I could talk freely and about whatever I wanted.

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D.G.

answers from Syracuse on

yes-my granddaughter!she would hum when just an infant -in her car seat!now i live with her-she is 6--talks to babydolls,the dog,the cat,on her play phone,herself,sings in the bathroom and has 20plus questions a day!! very curious and heavy thinker----drives me crazy sometimes (her mother was the same way)i am grateful though-when they get to middle school it is super to have a child who talks to you! my daughter was probaly the only kid to call from school to tell me what was going on!!!!listen to the high points and consider thhe rest music to your ears(think of the parents who don't have kids who can communicate..........brensam

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E.P.

answers from New York on

My daughter used to talking constantly in the car which really grates on my nerves. From a pretty young age, I was able to simply ask her to be quiet sometimes. If she was asking questions or we were having a CONVERSTATION, of course that was fine. Sometimes, though, she would just go on and on about nothing. I worried that if I didn't correct the behavior, she would turn into one of those kids who goes on and on about nothing in social situations and quite frankly looks foolish (sorry). We knew several of these kids and she agreed that it wasn't much fun to be around anyone who did this.

Now that she's almost 11, she still has chatty days but she's not running on constantly. Every once in a while, we'll be out and hear someone near her age going on and on about something. We've gotten in the car and she's said to me - thanks, Mom, for keeping me from sounding like that. I don't believe I've hurt her self-esteem. In life, people aren't able to talk all the time, so why would I want my daughter to grow up believing it's OK?

I think if it's done in a pleasant, positive but firm way, a child of that age should understand that nobody wants to hear someone talking all day and night. Sorry to offend anyone, but that's how I feel. Good luck.

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K.O.

answers from New York on

My son is 5 and he's great and super imaginative. Man can that kid talk. He tells me stories all day. It's sweet but it can really get to me too. By the end of the day I just need silence. Then he and my 3 year old talk at the same time and my baby is babbling. I need earplugs. :) I guess there will come a day when they won't talk to us and we'll miss it. Until then we need to grin and bear it and remember they are just little.

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