Mother-in-law - Cleveland,OH

If this is about your MIL making comments about your weight, say as nicely as you can, "My weight is not a topic of discussion." Then you need to make sure that you make no comments about what you eat or how your clothes are fitting as that will open up the topic again.

My FIL was the same way until I made that statement. He may think whatever he wants, but my weight is not open for discussion.

Mother - in- laws will always be a thing of jokes and Contention.
Each mother believes their child is the greatest on earth and some do not believe anyone is good enough for their child.
That being said as a woman keep in mind if you have a child you will one day be the dreaded mother- in- law.
So try to get along with your mother in law. Treat her with love and respect even if initially you are not treated the same.take the high road and show her how you want to be treated.
I assume the only time she acts like you exisit is to comment on your weight?
Being a big girl myself I know where you are coming from. It seems many times people see our large size instead of our large smile etc.
I have found many people who hurt my feelings about comments are actually trying to say they love and care about me in some way. (Hard to believe I know)
I have a great relationship with my mother- in - law but she does not live near by and it is easy to overlook things when visits are so special to my husband and child. It helps that she treats me like I am her daughter and not an outsider.
I believe this could be in part because I treat her so highly (yes she has faults and we do not always see eye to eye) but my attitude and perception makes a great difference.
Are you aware you could initiate activities with her? You could make her feel special and perhaps she would be more apt to do the same.
Best wishes!
I know this can be tough one.

you need to explain more and so we can all help you with some advice!!

Just to take a stab in the dark: your mil ignores you unless to comment on your weight?

Some more info would be useful so we know what the problem is?

WHAT IT IS SO UNCLEAR??????????Dose?What is that mean? explain? THANKS! L.

I'm not understanding your post either.

Hi M.
If she's making an issue of your weight when she's around, tell her its none of her business. Nicely if possilbe :) but definitely get the point across.
If she's toxic to be around, limit your time with her. My MIL and I do not spend time at all together, our personalities clash too much. She sees her grandson on a regular basis when my husband takes him to see her; but her & I do not visit each other. Its better this way. Life is too short and precious to be around people who are not good for us.

I am a very outspoken person and my MIL and I get along ok but I just tell her like it is and of course she complains to my husband but he just tells her to. You need to make a stand and let her know that it won't be tolerated. You may also want to talk to your hubby so it doesn't cause friction in the marriage