Yes, I do and it is annoying. No one in a safe marriage should be told what they are allowed to do with their children all the time. Parents should decide on things together and compromise on creating a standard of living.
If she was my friend, I would say to her, "How would you feel if your husband dictated to you what you are and are not allowed to do with your kids. Why don't you compromise with him, and why is it such an issue?"
Seriously, I can't handle hearing my friends whine and will kindly point it out to them that they are being ridiculous.