AHHH this is crazy.
Ok I watch an 8 yr old child overnight so his mom can work 3rd shift and on Tuesday I watch him earlier as his mom works early on that day but yesterday she drops him off at 400 and expects me to watch him and help him with his homework and get him dinner.. no notice no nothing no email, no call and I had plans yesterday.
I shot her an email and basically told her this isnt acceptable.
So I get an email from her this morning stating that she paid me 5 dollars extra each time she paid so now she is going to credit herself and that I wont be getting paid this week because I offended her.
Im pissed off... who gives her the right to drop her child off whenever she wants when we had agreed times he could be here.
Then for her to tell me that shes not going to pay me.
I shot her an email back stating that if she doesnt pay then the rest of the week she will have to find over accomodations.
I have had issues with her child with the attitude and manners and he has since been doing well with those but I seriously wonder where he learn it from... sarcasm.
He only gets to spend a month more with me because he goes with his dad over the summer but im going to tell her that when Fall comes that I am not longer offering to watch her child.
Talk about people taking advantage of others.
well he was dropped off last night with a note from his mom to me. Basically she states that since its my job and things change sometimes that I need to have an open door policy and that if she doesnt contact me it might be because shes too busy.
She came to the door today and I basically told her I do NOT have an open door policy in regards to watching her son. I do it because I volunteered at the church to help you out AND that since im helping her out she needs to be respectful of my home and my time.
She did pay me though so thats a good thing but im kind of irritated about this whole situation and since I volunteered thru the church she needs to be respectful of me and my home.
You handled it just right. It's obvious where he gets his manners!
What a twit. Some people are just clueless, stupid and/or selfish beyond reason.
Why wait? Stop watching him immediately. I have NEVER heard of someone talking to a caregiver in a such a way! If she drops him off after you notify her that you're done and lock the door. If she dumps him off anyway and drives off then call her to let her know that if she doesn't come pick up her son you will call the police and let them know she abondoned her child You can play hard ball too! This is ridiculous and as far as I'm concerned you've tolerated enough and your business relationship is OVER. The boy obviously has been acting out due to her lack of parenting since between the school and you are the only ones raising her child and he's lashing out. Not your responsibility anymore! DONE! Right now, DONE!
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
I'm with the others. You handled this perfectly! If she writes back and says that she won't be bringing him the rest of the week, I would just email her back and tell her that you're done. If you've been having issues with the child anyway, and now the mother is jumping on the bandwagon...I'd be done.
*hugs*
I think you handled this perfectly.
Draw that line and let no one cross it.
GOOD FOR YOU!
I wouldn't give her any help until the end of summer unless you enjoy being abused. You do know, if you keep taking the kid in, she WON'T pay you, right?
You have to get tough and don't answer the door if necessary. You have the upper hand...not her. It's your terms or forget it. Otherwise you have no right to feel sorry for yourself if the kid is being bratty, she's horning in on your time unexpectedly, and you're not getting paid what you deserve.
Tell the woman no drop ins, she's going to pay now, and if she doesn't use all the hours, YOU will credit back her money. But she doesn't get to call the shots. You are not an indentured slave. If she can't fly with that, she needs to find someone else. Chances are there is no one else, so she'll probably cave and give you what you want on your terms. She may not be back after summer, but at least you know you will get paid for this hellish gig right now. Get tough.
Just sayin.
