Mom Seeks Help for 5-Year-old Little Girl

Children sometimes find it hard to to put situations and or feeling in words. I know you said your sperated and if your husband was at all abusive to you either verbal or physical your daughter may have witnessed it and is sensing your
fear or uneasiness around your ex.

May I suggest you giving your daughter some paper and crayons and ask her to draw a picture of her and her dad or an activity that her and her dad do togehter during her visits.
Children like to express themsevles in drawings, I know my kids do. You may find this helpful. I am hoping everything works out for your family.

I think you need to get some outside help like a pastor, a friend your daughter is comfortable with or maybe a psychologist. There is some thing wrong and it needs to be address. Continue to reassure her that you love her and that she has done nothing wrong. Let her know that how she feels is very important. Spend a lot of quality time with her and some times it could just be nonverbal. It has to be time with you and her only. I know its hard with having two other children but it has to be made a priority and not just with her do the same with your other children. It could be cooking dinner, baking,taking a walk,painting each others nails or a movie night. Learn each one of your children as an individual. I hope I help a little....I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Tell your pediatrician and, if necessary, take her to a psychologist to rule out anything really scary.

Did u let her know that there is nothing to be afraid of if she tells you? maybe you can ask her if he mean to her? give her some ideas. kids aren't that great at expressing there feeling the right way so u may have to give her a lil push..

There is obvious a problem. Children do not make up things like this. Your ex would always deny things anyway, so its really no use asking him directly. You should really not have your daughter be spending time alone with her dad until you figure out the problem. Have her draw some pictures of what she does with dad at his place alone, write a story and have her read it to you. You could also try buying some books about "inappropriate touching" and read it with her and ask her if anyone has done this to her. Then start by asking, has "jake" does this to you? Has daddy done this? Has "sarah" done this? You should ask about others she knows so you dont just ask about daddy. YOu could also ask if daddy walks around the house naked, comes into her room in the night, etc. Have a conversation and maybe make up a story about someone you knew and this is what their daddyy did and see if she will open up. If there is a close pastor you work with then have them involved as well, but often times meeting new people for the first time scares children. Also, I would start having supervised visits with your children and their dad until this situation resolves or gets resolved.