L.R.
J.,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages - one at 11 weeks and one at 7 weeks. In both cases, I had no indication or symptoms that anything was wrong. One had no heartbeat at the 11 week ultrasound, the second stopped developing. I had a DNC for both and had no real physical issues - a little bleeding and spotting, but no cramps or pain. The emotional drain was much harder. My doctor was very supportive and said that more times than not, a miscarriage occurs when there is something not quite right with the fetus - something wrong with the chromosome count, genetic disorder, physical problem. Some times the fetus just isn't strong enough to survive. He said that the body might have made a decision for me, that I wouldn't want to have to face at 17 or 18 weeks (what to do if the baby has a genetic disorder). He emphasized that it was probably nothing that I had done - eaten, exercised too much or incorrectly, etc. He also stressed that one and even two miscarriages, does not really affect the possibility of getting pregnant again and carrying the next baby to term. The fact that you have been blessed by two healthy children is a good fact in your favor. I was very depressed and my husband kept stressing that it wasn't meant to be. That the right baby would join our family when the time was right. Two years later, he was right and she is perfect.
Please have faith that things happen for a reason, even if you will never understand it. I wish you the best of luck in adding a healthy addition to your family. God Bless.