Miscarriage - Fairfax,VA

I'm terribly sorry you are going through this. I just recently had to be induced and deliver a 23 week stillborn in the hospital. They used cytotec and after the second dose I started feeling the contractions, was given an epidural and delivered the baby easily. The doctor had to work on getting the placenta to release itself but it did. It has been two weeks since then. It was a horrifying experience, but one that I had been through before in 2007 when I had to deliver a 20 week stillborn. In 2008 I had an earlier miscarriage and had a D&C. I would just opt to have a D&C so you know that they're getting everything out and then your body can start to heal itself. If you need anything or want to talk, you can email me anytime, ____@____.com.

I've had two miscarriages but both were early in the pregnancy and everything happened on it's own so I can't give you any information about that. And things went back to normal physically pretty quickly.

Emotionally it was a little different. That took a little longer to get through.

Good luck with everything and I hope things go well.

First I have to say I am so sorry for your loss. I too know the devastation of losing a baby and the emotional pain will be with you for some time.

My doctor, as did yours, recommended the D&C because of the possibility of the placenta not passing all the way. There is a risk of infection if you don't have a D&C and the thought of having to wait out having the fetus pass and the pain and bleeding associated with it did not seem appealing to me. I also wanted to get back to normal as quickly as possible so that I could get pregnant again. I scheduled the D&C that afternoon. I was put under and when I woke up it was all over and I could begin the healing process. Physically I recovered in one day, emotionally - that's a whole other story. Give yourself some time for that.

Since you will probably have to do a D&C anyway, my advice to you is just schedule it for today and get it over with.

Good luck to you.

I had a miscarriage in 2005. I was not given medicine to induce. The dr. went straight for a D&C. Some how they could tell that my body wasn't going to take care of cleansing itself by itself. The D&C was pretty straightforward. Its a regular operation procedure - blood work, pre-op, etc. I didn't care for the coldness of some of the nurses and drs but then someone reminded me that this was common for them, and while they didn't mean to seem harsh, that's how THEY got through.

The recovery time physically was pretty short, a few days. Emothionally, it was longer, but that is probably true with any miscarriage.

Hugs.
M.