Miscarriage - Baltimore, MD

I am so sorry for your loss! I know how hard it can be when your husband or boyfriend doesn't talk about their feelings! My husband was brought up in a family that doesn't express their emotions or feelings and we have struggled over that throughout our relationship, I will say he has gotten better because I have helped him understand why it is so important to me that he share them with me. I just remind him that he needs to let me know how he feels about things or else I can't help him work through them.

I also want to add, if you are looking for a great support group you should check out www.whattoexpect.com. There are discussions boards for preconception, pregnancy, miscarriages and even a grief and loss board. There are women there who have been in your shoes and can offer you great advice and guidance.

I am so sorry to hear that too - you must be so upset. I agree with the other poster... I think if your boyfriend wants to talk about it, he will. He probably mixed up about his feelings.

Hi E.. I am so sorry for your loss. I too had a miscarriage a few months ago, so I know how you are feeling. My husband was the same way. He didn't talk much about it. A few months after I asked him why he didn't really talk about it, and his response was that he was trying to act strong for me. I guess he felt that if he showed me his weakness that it would make me feel worse, so he continued on acting very strong and supportive for me. That is probably what your boyfriend is feeling too. Take care and sorry again for your loss.

Unfortunately, the more you press him to talk about it, the more he will clam up. Men react very differently to their emotions then women do. They tend to keep everything bottled up inside. What you can do is let him know you are there for him, if and when he wants to talk. And when he is ready - LET HIM talk! We women tend to overrun the conversation when they do finally open up.

I am sorry for your loss. Hang in there!

Hi E.,

I am sooo sorry for your loss!!!I have been in your situation. I have lost 2 children. The first when I was 6 months pregnant with her and the second when I was only 3 weeks (I only knew I was preggie for 2 days). We all have our own way of healing. My husband's way was to do it on his own. He was there for me and I was there for him, but he just needed to deal with it without me. If your boyfriend needs to talk, he will come to you. Just let him know you are there for him, if he needs to.

L.