Hi Moms,
We are expecting a little boy within the week (hopefully) We have the first name chosen and my husband just told me that he came up with a middle name that sounds great with it (and I agree it does and even the initials, should we want to use them as a nickname sound cute). Here is the question....we have twin boys who will be 6 in a few months that were not given middle names. At the time we weren't happy with any of the ones we thought of to go with the first names chosen so we opted out of middle names for them. What do you think for our new baby? Skip the middle name since we did for the other two? Hubby and I don'[t have middle names and that is something I thought we could let our twins in on, that not every one has or uses them. We may just ask them their opinion, see if they have any issues with baby brother having a middle name and them not. Thanks!
I don't think they'll care. I know families where some kids have middle names and others don't, and no one has ever given a second thought to it. I also know a lot of people who would much rather have no middle name than to have the one they were given!
My kids have middle names but both go by nicknames generated from their first names. I always call my nephew by his first and middle name, never just his first.
M.
Give the new baby a middle name if you want. If your older ones want they can always pick a middle name. I always liked having a middle name and gave my kids 2 each (they have both my last name as a middle name and my husband's last name last). It is helpful since my children have fairly common first names and my daughter has a close friend with the same first name (they were named for the same person).
everyone in my family has a middle name but me. It has not been an issue in my life. Congratulations!
I don't see any need to avoid a middle name simply because your older kids don't have them. As your older kids will notice, people rarely use their middle names anyway, so how often will it become an issue that their brother has a middle name? Don't make a big deal over it, it's a simple issue. "What's my middle name mom?" "You and Peter don't have middle names. Neither do dad and I." "Why don't I?" "Because dad and I couldn't think of names we wanted to use as middle names for your and your brother's first names." The end. No big explanation needed.
our first doesn't have a middle name, our other two do.
in general, in my husband's family they only gave middle names to boys because girls get a new last name when they get married... and their maiden name becomes a middle name. but i have a middle name and like it. so our girls have middle names.
anyway, give him the name you want to give him, and don't worry too much!!! if it's ever an issue for your twins, they could pick a middle name for themselves.
Do you really think they'll notice? How often do people with middle names even hear both names spoken out loud? Only when they get in trouble and then I'll even through in the last name if it was BIG trouble(lol). If the two names sound good together than do it. And only if your twins bring up why they don't have middles names you can explain neither do you or your hubs or a lot of poeple for that matter. Congrats on #3!!!
What an interesting dilemma! Here is my suggestion and it just might turn out to be fun for all. If you and your husband really want a middle name for your third child, then I think the first two also need a middle name, albeit a bit tardy. They are young enough that it would be fairly simple, I would imagine, to actually have their middle name inserted as a legal name- change on their birth certificates and social security cards. (Note: It is my understanding that it does not have to be actually documented and that one can use any name one wants, so long as it is not for illegal purposes...however, at the six-year-olds' very young age, I think I would go on with the legal route, which likely would only entail filling out a few forms and paying a modest fee. You might "Google" "changing name officially" to get the particulars on this).
O.K., back to the the middle name for the twins. What fun it would be for each of them to choose his own middle name!
If they want to do this later (add a middle name), it will become somewhat more complicated once they change schools, enter college, enter the workforce, etc., as they will have used the non-middle name monikers for so long, various records will perhaps conflict with their suddenly appearing at work, say, with a middle name at age 25. So, I would go on and let them each choose a middle name now, to coincide, more or less, with their new little brother's arrival. Good luck with all three!
Maybe you could let your six your olds choose their own middle names (if you don't mind them choosing "tyrannosaurus" or "nintendo") but definitely don't NOT give your baby a middle name just because your other sons don't have them. Middle names are COOL!
