Hello Mamas,
I'm reflecting some of 2012. Some of the best advise given, came from mamas from this site. Thank you. Our lives are richer now than it has ever been. We are finally a family without an evil ex in it. Oh, he tries to still send evil emails and calls, however, he is ignored. So funny, how even now, he tries to make it seem he is the victim and not the cause of everything. How does one get so far from the truth?!! For his sake, I hope he can come to his sences one day and see how much pain and money he caused us. But, something tells me, since his Dad was the same way, he will too be like him and die believing everyone is wrong and he is right. Not for me to worry about any longer, I hope that is...
I'm writing this as (I hope) closure to the ex saga. As my new family has moved on with a name change, and just us three as our own family unit, unconditional love. We may not have a house, or the best vehicle and wear Goodwill clothes, we have one another and for me, a new life that consists of going back to school (can you believe it) in January-that is if a loan goes through :) ...... It is priceless.
Take care...see ya'll out on this site again!!!
Merry Christmas to you too! Glad to hear your are experiencing so many blessings!
Congrats, good luck, and Merry Christmas!
Congrats on getting your family in a better place! Merry Christmas and big wishes for a blessed 2013!!
Sounds like you want to know what your next guy's dad is like before you let HIM in your heart, if "like father, like son" is an indication of someone who is not marriage material. So sorry you had to learn this hard lesson with your first husband.
Keep your chin up and enjoy your kiddos, and the peace that comes after the storm (and getting rid of the reason for the storm.)
Merry Christmas and hugs to your kids!
Dawn
Glad to hear things are better for you. Sorry to break it to you but I don't think the ex will ever stop playing the victim. It's been 11 yrs and just a week ago my son's father was trying his best to put me down, insult me on everything he could think of and even say that maybe my son should come live with him. He insulted the clothes my son wears, when I schedule dr appts, the cleanliness of my house on a 24/7 basis, even my parenting. The more you let it slide right off or stand your ground the less it happens. I'm even remarried, about to have son number 3, active in my church, DH and I both have good jobs, home, food in the fridge and pantry, clothes on our kids backs, great education for kids, so on and so forth but the ex will still try. Being a phenomenal parent doesn't mean you spend all of your money on name brand clothes your kids don't need or expensive cars etc. It means you love your children and provide for all of their needs. You are better yourself and love your children deeply and your children will remember all of that. If there is no significant other then down the road there may be. I was a single parent for 5 yrs before my DH and I met. I wasn't interested in dating or jumping into a relationship. We ended up being set up through a mutual friend and now almost 5 yrs of marriage we are still happy and he's probably the best father/step-father I could have asked for my kids. Even my oldest looks at him more as his father than his own. Don't ever settle for less than the best for you and your kids. Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and Congrats on finally feeling some relief.
