Meeting My Father-In-Law and More...

No offense, but I'm confused and having trouble following you.
What does seem clear, sorry if I'm wrong, is that your husband's dad is coming to visit.
Is there any way you can just enjoy that visit and let all the rest slide?
I'm not sure what any of the rest of it has to do with anything.
Sorry if I'm missing something.

Why are you comparing your ex and his family with your husband and his family?
It may be a new and completely happy thing.

I know it's become common and almost customary to have an issue with in-laws but maybe you are worrying about nothing.
Scrape the rest of the issues away and you might be able to have a nice visit.

No offense.
Just my opinion.

You love your husband, they love your husband. You already have something in common. Don't start planning for things not to work. Do what you can to stay out of any drama. I think you can relax. You say your new husband's family treats your daughters well. Concentrate on that and relax.

Just relax, it's no big deal. Talk to him like you would talk to anyone you just met.

Don't get your question.....can you be more specific?

Blessings...

Why have any expectations? Just be who you are and let him be who he is. Treat him like you expect to be treated - welcome hug, introductions, story telling and let it happen - why be burdened with what ifs???? He is who HE is, not someone else. If you haven't met him yet - let go and do so. Don't borrow trouble from tomorrow, today has enough of it's own.

Your husband's family is really making an effort for you. First his mom with what your children might like for Christmas and the dad visiting. Please don't be so defensive. This is a new family, this is not your ex.

Do your best to build a strong family with everyone. Braden is your husband's child from his ex and his daughter too? Sorry, hard to follow. All of these children need you to be a family.

MAybe like me u r on a blackberry because girl I cannot follow your tale. Anyhoo, father in laws tend to be much easier thAn mother in laws. You should be fine unless he is a holy roLler or A very wealthy snob.

Ask your husband if his dad likes eating out or if he prefers a home-cooked meal. Dress modestly. Greet him with a light hug. Let your husband lead the discussion.

Your father-in-law will want to know two things: that you are a good wife to his son and a good mom to his grandkids. Don't criticize your husband or point out any faults (even if joking). Be sweet and pleasant. If your kids act up or need lots of attention, keep a smile on your face and don't raise your voice. Have lots of things ready to distract them. Some men get irritated easily by young children. Be sensitive to what he is feeling. Take them out of the room if they seem very distracting to him so he and his son can talk.

Men are easy. Give them something to eat and drink and they are usually good.

he is a man, talk to him like you talk to your husband.