C.B.
Hi L.,
I have heard of men getting jealous of there children, its like he got all the attention before the baby came along and now they don't get as much. I have a few things you can try to do...
#1 get a babysitter once or twice a month and have time with you husband alone, go to dinner or a movie or just hang out at home with quite time.
#2 talk to your husband and tell him you need a "family day" once a week and the THREE of you have to do something together. And there should be a "mommy day" so dad can have some free time to do whatever and a "daddy day" so mommy can do whatever (I go get my nails and hair done--or take a bath and hang out in the room and watch tv by myself while daddy is spending time with the baby in the living room) You should have a plan or it just doesn't work out.
#3 tell him that it is important for your son to spend time with his grandparents so no need for jealousy, it builds a good foundation for your son. Our parents live far away and we take time out through the year to visit. We have NO family here at all but its good for our daughter so we suck it up and take the long trip.
Communication is KEY in every relationship and RESPECT as well, its hard when you have a baby--you life and relationships are turned upside down and you have to learn to deal with the new challenges and some times it jeopodizes your relationship but you have to try to work through it and do whatever is best for you and your son in the end but you have to at least try.
Let me know how it goes. C.