Mama's Boy - Pleasant Grove,UT

Is wearing him a practical solution for you? My son went through a phase like this, and I often wore him around in the front or back pack while I worked.

This is usually a phase and when you need to leave the room use your voice to sooth him. Talk to him and let him know what u r doing and say here i come and sing ... Just the sound of your voice will help. But this too shall pass. Be patient . All too soon he will not want anything to do with you as boys tend to be more independent than girls. Good luck and god bless

His seperation anxiety is high but that can be expected in some children. I would try to do whatever work you can in the same room and when you have to switch rooms take him with you. You do not need to be playing with him al the time but maybe start with 10 min work, 10 min play and slowly increase that time til you can actually get half an hour or hour of work in at a time. If you have to leave the room for a brief moment simply say I will be right back. IN time he wil learn that you will be back but stay consistent with saying this phrase. Also in time the anxiety will phase out as he gets older but he has to learn you cannot be next to him al the time. For now take it slow.

My second boy is that way. There's really nothing I could do about it! It really started when he began to crawl, because then he knew that I had left the room. Before that, he just assumed I was still nearby and was okay.

He would just sob and sob at the door when I was in the bathroom. I hate to say it, but he did that until he was 3. Sometimes he still comes to the door to ask if I'm in there, just so he knows where I am at all times. And he hates doors being closed between him and me, although his anxiety about that lessened when he learned to open doors.

The funny thing is that he has always loved going to nursery at church, and babysitters are a huge treat to him. He doesn't mind me leaving him with someone else, as long as he knows I'll be back soon. The only time I've had him cry when I left was just 3 weeks ago, because I was going to the hospital to have a baby and he knew I'd be gone for a few days.

I read that someone mentioned letting him cry it out. I'll warn you that while I generally believe in crying it out, I now know that it just doesn't work with some kids. My first son cried it out for 5 minutes for 2 days and then went to bed silently and happily from then on. But my second, who hates being separated from me, never did cry it out, ever! He just got more hysterical the longer I left him. I will say that what worked best for him was to let him cry for a little while, which seemed to tire him out, and then I'd go and cuddle and hug him. After that, he'd calm down and go to sleep. He was tired, but afraid of being separated from me, so he needed the comfort and security of a hug before he could sleep.

I think I took the approach that he was afraid of being abandoned, so I gave him opportunities to learn that I would never abandon him. Not only did I talk about how I would never leave him except for sometimes with a babysitter, but I purposely would leave rooms for a few moments just so he'd learn that I'd come back.

He's now a very happy 3 1/2 year old. He goes to sleep on his own and isn't insecure a

All three of my children have this syndrome and my first born was and is the worst (he is 9 now). All I can say is you have to let them cry it out once and a while, cut the cord as my husband would say. It does get better when you can actually explain to them that you need to get other things done but I am convinced that a big part of this problem is a parenting style. Don't take offense, I am equally guilty. We just love them so much and hate to see them sad. It is not a bad thing, just a bit hard to deal with once and a while.

All I know is they grow up fast, you can get them under control, it does take time and just cherish it because soon they want nothing to do with you.

Good luck!

I would have to say that you need to let him know that you have to take care of other things too and when your done you will go right back to him. My older sister has a 2 year old that is so attached to her she can't do anything alone. She's brought him over to my house so I could baby sit him and he just wont stay. You need to teach him NOW, that it's okay for him to play by himself while he watches you. Maybe let him play somewhere where he could see you at all times.
I really don't mean to sound rude. I wish you the best of luck!

9 months is a normal age for strong separation anxiety. my second baby was a mama's boy for a long time. i just had to find ways to let him participate in what i was doing or give him his own thing to do next to my feet. when i needed to change rooms, i went slow so he could follow or i picked him up if i was in a hurry. when i needed two hands and had to rush around different rooms, he followed me around crying. it was sad, but that's all i could do. with my 3rd baby, we've had success getting her attached to a stuffed animal, so that is comforting to her. but for a long time she would have a meltdown if i was away from her in the evenings. she wanted to be home in the evenings in the same room as me and nothing else. there's no telling for sure how long your baby will take to get over it. it may continue through age 3, or he may be so happy about his independence when he starts walking/running that he doesn't care so much about being right next to you. hang in there!

How old is he? My son did this, stuck like glue, until about his second birthday. I literally had to carry him around with me every waking hour (strong left arm!). Now, however, he is a smiley, happy, anc confident boy. I do think that completely beleiving that he behaved this way because he needed to be close and adapting to it has contributed to his confidence. Just keep holding him close, and he will hopefully grow out of it soon!

Hello, I have a nine month old baby boy. Well about two months ago i had the same issue all he wanted was someone to hold him well my better half found something that he likes ,like a toy..Long as you get his mind off of being held you should be over the issue in no time..Now my boy hates to be hold..At nine months my son is crawling like a army guy and he's in two everything...