Low Sex Drive

Considering your age, not your childrens, seriously have your doctor do a saliva test on you!! I have been complaining about that for several years (am 44), and several other "symptoms". My nurse prac. finally listened about a yr ago, and did this test on me. I am using a progestrone cream, which I can tell is making a difference! The test works differently that blood work. It tests your horomones, but they don't "stick" to your saliva the way they do blood. I was on birth control for "female" issues, and my results came back WAY low! My testostrone was really low which of course controls your sex drive. Mine isn't perfect but at least I care if we do anything now, where before I didn't! I hope this helps some!

S.,

You certainly do have a lot of things going on. It's still ok to be getting over a miscarriage from July.

Also, you may want to check with your dr because hormones-lack of or too much of-certainly CAN cause a low sex drive (birth control hormones included). You didn't mention any other symptoms but if you have things like thinning hair, feeling cold all the time, feeling sluggish a lot it can be something that is easily fixed but requires seeing a dr. A low or not functioning thyroid can cause a decreased sex drive.

Do good things for yourself; you can't take care of others unless you take care of yourself.

See your gyn and let us know how you're doing.

Beth

Hi S.,

I believe it's normal hormonal changes. It sounds like you have gone through a lot, recently and you should NOT get down on yourself, that's not going to help.

I do hope you have a supportive and understanding husband. I think maybe you guys should use this 'phase' to kind of start dating again. Doing this, may take the pressure of sex off your mind, yet keep you and your husband still connected. Hold hands, tease each other, but keep in mind and understand that sex does not have to be the outcome. This may relax you and you may find that you are more interested in sex than you thought.

Keep the lines of communication between you and your husband 'extra' open. That way you will both understand where you are both coming from.

I hope this helps you!! I'd love to know how you are doing, please stay in touch. You'll be in my thoughts!!

P.

Not to get too personal, but are you on birth control? Sometimes with the addition of the female hormones, estrogen and progesterone, testosterone, the male hormone, and the control of the sex drive, diminishes. I would talk to your doc and see what he suggests.

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I don't know if this is an option or not but maybe have your inlaws or parents keep your kids for the night and you and your husband have a "date" night. My husband and I do this once a month and its really nice to go out to dinner then come home to peace and quite. Also it's nice to be able to sleep in a little the next morning.

sounds like you just have a lot on your plate, don't blame you for not wanting sex. Try doing relaxing things for yourself, once a week i'll put my two boys down for bed and take a nice warm candlelit bubble bath. Also excersising can do wonders for a low sex drive, try walking your older son to school and strolling the little one around, or maybe have your husband watch the boys and take a yoga class at a local community center. I think if you take time for yourself everyone including you husband will benefit!.

best wishes
F.

Hi S.,
There are a lot of issues here but if the low sex drive is really caused by hormone levels or by some other physical issue like low energy in general, chinese medicine can help. It addresses the imbalance in the body and works to restore energy and overall well-being, which includes a healthy sex drive. I am an acupuncturist with offices in Philadelphia and Jenkintown, my contact info is at www.ellengvincent.com, but you can also contact me if those areas are inconvenient to you and you need a referral to a practitioner closer to you.
best,
E.