Loneily Help

don't belittle yourself by thinking you are loney because you aren't smart. everyone gets lonely...some more than others. you may be feling depression. that can be greatly helped by a trip to the dr. for medication or just talking to someone. i am a stay at home mom and don't get a lot of adult interaction so i too feel lonely sometimes..... maybe all you need is to find a friend even if its just on the computer that you can talk to

I just wanted to reach out and give you a big hugggg.~

That is not so. You can join groups to meet people; you can volunteer the Plain Dealer on Sunday's has a section that you can look into volunteer programs' you can also google volunteer opportunities Cleveland, Ohio and see what you come up with. If you like doing correspondence stuff like sending letters to children/people with illness there are 2 programs you can look into they are www.makeachildsmile.org and www.sendlovetoday.org this is very rewarding and you can make someone and yourself feel better knowing people care. You are very smart you are reaching out and finding ways you can find friends, don't ever think you are not smart. Sometimes it's not easy to be out in the world with people but you will find friends and won't be lonely there are some really nice folks out here just open up and give people a chance but also be safe. I hope this helps you out and I wish you luck on your journey to not be lonely anymore.

As hard as it may seem to get out, just make yourself do it, you'll be glad you did. I was super lonely for so long, and then one day I went to a baby group at the library, I don't feel so alone anymore. I wish you luck, because it's easy to become depressed when you feel alone. Is this your first baby? If so, remember that your life has changed in every way, and you won't feel this way forever!! Take care.....:-)

God made you in His image and He is very smart. He made you special and LOVES you very much. Talk to Him and let Him know how you feel. You need to reach out to a pastor or your doctor and talk to them also about how you are feeling. We all feel depressed at times but if it lasts over a longer period of time maybe your body is trying to tell you there is something going on it so please see a doctor. It could be your hormones out of sync which could be caused by your thyroid or PMS. Please talk to your doctor to rule out a medical condition.

M., I'm sorry you feel that because you're not "smart" you should keep to yourself. I'm sure you're smarter than you think. Plus, a lot of people have insecurities that they harbor. If you can, MAKE yourself do something a little difficult. (Talk to someone you wouldn't normally talk to at work, at the store, at church...but try and pick someone who looks approachable. That would make it easier) If you really can't, then go see a professional. If you can't afford one, there are those that you can see for free or for a very reasonable fee. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Actually, it's a very mature thing to do. Please don't isolate yourself any more. There are so many people like yourself out there. Believe me. Maybe by interacting with the moms on this website you might become a bit braver and it won't seem so scary to approach someone else. Good luck!

Hi M.,

Your post concerns me. I think it is really important that you contact someone asap. Perhaps a doctor or a therapist to talk to. More than lonely you sound depressed. There are people out there to help you, as hard as it may be to reach out, this is an important time to do so. If you don't know where to begin try a spouse, relative or friend.

I wish you the best,
Lilia

Hi M.,

Even if you don't feel smart, you have done something very smart: you posted this feeling on this site.

Keep on sharing, both on the computer and in person, and you will find that if you share your feelings other people will respond to you.

Then maybe you will start to feel connected to other people, and the sad feelings will start to fade away.

Just keep trying!

talk to your doctor first, they may give you some ideas as to why you feel the way you do. i dont get alot of adult interaction either so it can be lonely too. i agree with heather,a friend even if it is on the computer could be part of the solution.

You did a very smart thing by asking for help! Please talk to your doctor about feeling lonely and not feeling smart. It sounds like you are depressed. You might also have a learning disability that makes it hard for you learn, but that doesn't mean you aren't smart. A doctor can help you figure it out. You don't have to feel this way!

If you don't have a doctor, ask a friend or family member for their doctor's name. After you see the doctor, you could try to meet some people by joining a church, or volunteering, or going to the library.