Leaving My Babies for the Night

Why feel guilty? The kids are having fun with their grandparents and they will have a more relaxed, refreshed mom when they come home.

Just dont feel guilty. One day your adult children will be feeling the same thing and you want to be able to tell them "for your own sanity please do not worry about the kids tonight while they are in my care and you guys go and have a GREAT time and call me tomorrow when you are up and around and ready for the kiddos back."
Seriously. You have to have these times away, it's good for you and good for your children to be able to experience the difference between mom and grandma, and home and grandmas house.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH A RESPONSIBLE NIGHT OUT ONCE IN AWHILE.
Have a great time Shaun!

I started looking at it that I was actually doing my daughter a DISSERVICE by never leaving her alone and having me time. I was teaching my daughter that she existed ONLY to 'do' for others, because that's what she saw me doing - BAD EXAMPLE (and why do I do it???? Cuz my mom did!!!!! - stupid repetitive cycle!)

I also think this is a HUGE step in building her relationships with extended family. By leaving her with trusted other adults I was giving her trusted sources of information/modeling in relationships that would also nurture her as she got older. My daughter has a GREAT relationship with my mom (her grandma) because my mom spent extra time with her.

Have fun!

You get over the guilt by knowing that in order to stay together and be a great mommy and daddy you need time together to be husband and wife. A strong, happy and loving marriage makes for a strong, happy and loving family.

I see it as bonding with grandpa and grandma... You are not leaving them you are giving them an opportunity to bond.

Well, try to think of it this way.
Your kids won't have any guilt over leaving you to go do fun things and have sleepovers. And go to college.
Children need time away from their parents sometimes. It exposes them to wonderful and different experiences.
I was super close to my grandfather and spent every summer with him. I missed my parents and they could drive up and visit for a couple days and go again.
My sister and I also flew back east to stay with other relatives.
We have the best memories! We never EVER thought, 'Oh, our parents are getting rid of us." Heck no!
You are a mother. And a fabulous one, I have no doubt. But, you are also a wife, a woman, and an adult. You shouldn't feel guilty about exercising your right to enjoy being any one of those things.
My husband's company flew us around quite a bit and although I MISSED my kids, I didn't feel guilty for going.
They got to do fun stuff and go places with Nannie and Grandpa.

Have a great time! It's not like you are never with your kids so there's no need to feel guilty.

Have fun!!!

This will sound silly, but I don't feel guilty leaving my kids. Do you feel scarred from your parents going out when you were a kid? I think we are the ones that are way more concerned. The kids will fine, and they get some special time with grandma and grandpa. Do not feel guilty for wanting to do more than be mom all day and night. Being a mom is a part of who you are, not your identity.

I usually get over my guilt when I finally get back and hear my daughter going on and on about what she did and how much fun she had. I realize that I had been silly worrying and feeling guilty. Just breath and focus on having fun with your husband.

What's helped me - my mom & stepdad have taken my daughter once a month since she was born. (granted she's only 6months old). The first time was really rough but i knew things went fine and i trust them.. and knowing we get our night once a month (not counting date nights) is awesome :)

I admit -I've never felt guilty about it! I would go insane without getting away from my kids and my husband. I love them and I love to do things with them, but I really need time alone and time alone with my husband. This weekend I'm in the mountains by myself! Just finished a 4 mile hike and am waiting on my phone to charge. Going to shower, hit a local winery and go into town for some shopping and supper. Do I feel guilty -NO -I feel recharged and fantastic! Enjoy your night and take as many of them as you can get! Your kids need to stay with others and get used to not having you there 24/7. It's really good for them.

Think of what a nice time their grandparents are having lavishing
love on your children. Families are wonderful...nurture the love.

I am a much better momma when I get back from a break -- esecially when it's long enough to actually miss them! =) Relax, enjoy your husband & love on your kids when you get back. HAVE FUN!