Leaving Child with Sitter After Surgery

stay home! For some reason, Day #5 & #10 are the worst. I had been warned about this, kinda blew it off, & regretted not heeding the words of my friends.

Sounds crazy, but it held true for us.

I cant answer if you should go or not but I can tell you my daughter had her worst day around day 5 or 6. I remember the ENT telling us this would happen and thought how could that be? He was right though.

Is it really important to go to the birthday party? I wouldn't think so...but I don't have family members in jobs where it is important to schmooze. If it's not necessary, I wouldn't go. DD is definitely more important. (Although I agree that it is unlikely anything would go wrong.)

Yes, I'd go. Your mom will take good care of her. Give her excellent instructions and make sure that she has the doctor's emergency number, and write a letter stating that she can bring her to the hospital if necessary. Also give her a copy of your insurance card.

I cannot imagine that anything bad will happen. It'll be okay and as long as you keep your cell phone with you, no worries.

Dawn

I would decide on that day based on how she is feeling. Some children bounce right back.. and others are still clingy. If you cannot go, send your husband .

The likelihood of anything going wrong is very slim, like less than 1%. Your mother can take care of her. If and it's a big IF something were to happen she can take her to the ER. It's just so unlikely that anything would happen. What could you do differently than what your mother could do?

Bleeding isn't a crisis, even at that. What did her discharge instructions say to do if she does start bleeding?

It's important for your husband's job that you go. I'd go. I speak as a grandmother who has learned with time that everything works out and to not borrow trouble by worrying about something that is unlikely to happen.

Tough one. Sounds like it would be best if your husband went without you and explained why you stayed home. You'll probably be worried the whole time you're gone anyway.

Do you have faith in/trust your mother to care for your child?

Wow, twice in one morning I seem to have a thought that no one else does... Our mamas raised and cared for us through numerous diseases --if they have no issue with it, can't they be trusted to once in a while babysit our sick children?

Do you have to go too, or can just your Husband go?
This is a exception type thing, surgery and a young child.
And that is several hours away.
I'm sure your Husband and/or his Boss, would understand.
I would stay home, personally.

i would go. if something happens you mom can take her to the er and also call you. chances are she will be sleeping like a baby when you get home

I'd personally want to be home. I am sure that your mother would do a fine job, but in that situation, I don't think I would enjoy myself or the night out...I'd be too worried about my kiddo.

Has she had any problems? If not, and since she's going to be with your mom, then I would go. Make sure your mom knows exactly what to do for her and what she should and shouldn't eat, drink, do, etc. If she's been having problems from it though, then I would stay home.

If it was a random teenager, I'd say no, but this is your mom. You survived her care, right? She should be capable of watching your five year old (unless she's infirm or really elderly, of course). Just give her a list of symptoms to watch for and emergency numbers to call. If your daughter started bleeding again, your mom would need to call 911, not you - so it's OK if you're an hour away. Relax and enjoy the birthday celebration.

No experience with a tonsillectomy. However, I know that I wouldn't want to be an hour away in the rare event that something did happen.

well, it's not like it's the next day. 5 days out, i'd probably plan to go. you must trust your mom or it wouldn't even be an option, right?
but i'd remain flexible enough to cancel if she's having a bad day on saturday morning. then your dh can just go himself.
khairete
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My mom took care of me when I had my tonsils out when I was 5....and I would let her take care of one children....heck what better person than your mom!!!

As a mom I would not go. My mom gave wonderful grammy love and care to my children. They adored her! Still, there were those things I needed to take care of because if I had not, it would have surely made me crazy with worry.
Maybe it could be a girls night for you , your mom and daughter at home.

I wouldn't go...but that's just me

I see both sides, and can understand why you feel the dilemma. Chances are pretty good that DD will be just fine, and would enjoy GM's attention -- while you get a chance to do something you possible need to for hubby's job, that could also be fun.

How old is your daughter? Is she able to communicate what she needs to? Is she old enough to not question why mommy left? Can you talk to DD over the phone to check on her?

Do you trust your mom to really care for her, and inform you of anything that happens?

I personally wouldn't be able to trust my MIL (my mom is deceased), and my girls are 4 1/2 and younger. In this situation, I wouldn't be going. If I had someone I could trust, and my daughter was older, I would consider going. Hope that helps. :) Good luck Mama.

I think you should go since it is is already post day no. 5. If you think their is no obvious heavy bleeding for the last few days or if your daughter does not have any bleeding conditions then you should not be worried. Im sure your mom will take good care of her .

If your daughter seems fine on Saturday then I'd plan to go...it's your mother who will be with her. Our daughter was totally fine even after a few days of her surgery...she had tonsils and adnoids removed. It seems there are a lot of "worry-worts" on here, sorry to say. It's your mother, after all...she raised you, certainly she can watch for daughter for an afternoon/evening.

Well, I would say that those papers are a worst case scenario and that if she is doing fine it would be fine to leave her for a while. If she is not feeling well or doing well I would say she needs you to stay home.

I think if you are truly that worried then by all means let hubby go and you stay home.

If you must, one PARENT go to the party and one PARENT stay home with the recovering child.