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You can do anything you want - you just have to give yourself the credit you deserve.
I'm stuck. I want to tell you to leave. You and your husband are NOT setting a good example for your children. These are their informative years - is this how you and your husband want THEIR marriages to be?
You have several options at your door right now.
You can go to marriage counseling to see how you two can learn how to communicate to each other. You need to figure out WHY you are angry. You need to figure out WHY you are ALLOWING someone to tell you you can't do something or letting you believe that you can't make it without him. You HAVE to drop the negative. I know how strong those negative voices are - but you MUST believe in yourself. You MUST have faith in yourself and God. You are a VALUABLE W. and NEVER let ANYONE tell you differently. Your husband found qualities in your he liked/loved and married you.
You can go to school yourself. Find out what you want to do - what are your desires and dreams? Do NOT EVER let "just a high school diploma" stop you for going after your dreams - you are setting and example for your children - do you want them growing up angry? do you want them growing up thinking THIS is how marriage is supposed to be? NO, I don't think so.
You can prove that you can do it on your own. You can earn money in many ways - you can also do things to protect your future - you can sell things on ebay, you can make things and sell them (my mom is talented in making afghans, quilts, etc. and gets paid $200-$500 for each one she makes). I too am a SAHM, I save $$$$ in coupons and sell things on ebay. I also do recruiting - there are MANY avenues for you to travel down.
Now, you need to STOP being angry. Do you believe in God? I do - God can help you through ANYTHING - you need to trust in Him. Pray to him. Go to your priest or pastor for guidance.
Network with other SAHMs, get out of the house or have others over to the house. You need to see your value and self-worth.
I STRONGLY suggest counseling - if not marriage (which I would seriously hope you will do) then just for yourself. You need to learn how to vent your angry properly and use that anger for good - for YOURSELF.
I live in Reston, VA - please feel free to contact me.
Again, DO NOT let ANYONE tell you you can't do it without them. DO NOT let ANYONE tell you CAN'T do something!!
Best regards,
God Bless
Cheryl