Lack of Intimacy with Husband Because We Have Young Children

We're having the same problem, and we don't even have as much going on in our lives as you do! I was kinda feeling wierd about it too, so my husband and I talked about it, and we both feel the same way..... we're just too tired and stressed right now, and I guess we're not making sex a priority, which maybe is bad, but at least from talking with him I felt good that we were feeling the same way and there was no resentment or anything. So, I guess I feel that talking about it with your husband is important just to make sure you're both on the same page with the situation. I know the romance and intimacy will come back to us when our son starts to get a little older and more independent.

You are not alone... not in the least.

we actually have to schedule romantic time, as unromantic as that sounds.

You are lucky that your husband "feels" the same way as it is very hard on a relationship when one person wants to and the other doesn't. I have to admit that I am one who never thought I would be too tired to have sex but, yep, kids can do that to you. Our children are 15 months apart. But I do have to say that we both get pretty crabby if we go longer than two weeks and I don't think we sleep as well. I completely understand where you are but I do think you both need to make some time. Do you at least get some cuddle time in bed. My husband and I usually cuddle up and hold each other for about 5 - 10 minutes each night (before rolling over to opposite sides of the bed to sleep LOL). As little as it sounds it really does help. Even just running my hand across his shoulders, stomach as I go past (carrying one of the kids of course LOL) is at least touching him. Good luck. Don't give up on it! I firmly belive it is an important part of a marriage.

I stay at home with my two kids.. the one is 3 1/2 and my daughter is 18 months.. My husband is truck driver and is only home on the weekends.. so we have to make time at nap time. I get my son up early and my daughter so that they sleep from about 1-3 give or take.. This give my husband and I a 2 hour window even if it's just to cuddle, watch a movie, or to have sex.. They kids may be up till 9-10, but this way at night when i'm actually tired.. it's not a big deal to turn over an go to bed.. lol.. I guess are relationship depends on that down time from the kids since we don't see each other everyday..I wish you luck!

That is so normal. I was there when my kids were young. Now they are 10,13,15 and 25 and I still sometimes don't miss it. I am thankful that my husband is understanding and patient and we have a good relationship in all ways. YOu won't always feel the way you do now so don't be hard on your self and just make sure you are openly talking with your spouse.

Yep..That's me and my husband we haven't had sex since i was like 7 months preganant and my son is 6 1/2 months old!!!! you do the math but i don't miss it at all either nor do i crave it my libido has just severly dropped since i've had my son..but i happen to know that it is perfectly normal and look now your not alone!!!