Kids Meetingparents New Bfs/gfs

My son is 16 and has yet to meet one of my prior boyfriends. Oh, he knows that I date, and asks about them, but I have always told him when I am ready to marry him, then you can meet him. So far no marriage material. Tho' the current guy - my son may actually get to meet this one.

Being a single mother since conception I knew I didn't want my son to meet and become attached to someone that I may not stay with. He deserved ( and continues to deserve) all the stability that I could/can offer him.

Years ago, a little boy in our neighborhood, told us about his 3rd Daddy. Seems his Mommy often moved the boyfriends in - he was about 8 maybe. Broke my heart. Broke his heart when they left.

My daughter didn't meet my husband until we had been together for 2 months (I think...I know it was greater than a month). I didn't meet his kids until just after that.

We got married after having been together for 6 months. I've since adopted his kids, and he mine.

I never brought any of the guys I dated casually around my daughter. My job, as a mother, is to protect my daughter. Parading guy after guy around her and not giving her any stability is not protecting her.

My mom did a lot of that with us and with my cousins when they were little. Once my two cousins were in the car with her and her car broke down. She called one of the guys she was seeing to come help. Im not sure how many guys she was dating at that time, but two of them were both named Dave. So she tells them Dave is coming and they are expecting the other Dave and someone else shows up. My cousin, who I think was about 7 at the time, gave the poor guy the finger and told him 'we like the other Dave better'.
Sadly my mother learned nothing from this and continued bringing her many 'friends'. I do think its a funny story though. I think children should not be introduced unless you are ready to talk marriage. Its really not healthy for.people to be constantly coming and going from their lives like that.

So....sad.
When adults put their own selfish wants ahead of their children.
Your friend IS right. There is no need to involve her son in her flighty relationships. Poor kid.

I don't think you can "do" anything though.
Of course, the kid, in this case, gets to be collateral damage.

It doesn't seem that your friend is seeking advice. As a friend, I am sure she would appreciate it if you withheld judgement and refrained from gossiping about her choices.