J.
I completely understand what you are going through and I am so sorry.
With all three of my pregnancy I was in and out of hospitals. Each child was born at different hospitals in different states. It wasn't until I got here in Texas that a doctor finally did something about it. They put a stent in. It's a little tube that the hooked to my kidney and the other to so where else. It didn't hurt me or the baby at all. There were still a few times when I was passing the stones that it hurt but nothing bad at all. It felt like you really have to use the bathroom but when you do go it is really slow and there is a little bit of persure. That's it.
I would deffinitly ask you doctor about it. It is really easy for them to do and I believe there is little very little risk of any kind involved.
I hope this helps
J.