Kid's Moving to Your Bed in Middle of Night

They will only be little so long and then you will miss it. Enjoy these sweet, sleepy snuggles while you can. It will be over all too soon.

I just leave them there. Most of the time they don't even wake me up when they climb in bed.
I don't see a set age that it becomes "inappropriate". But my oldest stopped wanting to a few years ago. My second will very rarely come in, when he's having really bad nightmares. My third is still pretty little and ends up in bed with us often.
If no one's getting good sleep I will sometimes take them back to bed. But that isn't often.
I'm really most concerned with everyone getting sleep, wherever that happens is fluid.

I don't think its a big deal.

My story, of when I was a child:
When I was a child, I would, in the middle of the night, creep down our long dark scary hallway... JUST to go to my parent's room and squeeze in between them to sleep. I did that because I missed my parents, and wanted to be near them. And I would get scared at night in my room. They let me squeeze in between them. It was no big deal to them. Why? Because, they knew I would grow out of it. And I did. My sibling on the other hand, would make fun of me, for it. But she is a cold fish anyway, and never bonded with my parents, like I did. She was never close to them.
For me, this was a FOND childhood memory for me, about my parents. A nice memory. The way a child is handled at night, and the way they go to bed or not as a child... will be remembered.

Up until recently, I just allowed her to stay in bed and sleep with us until morning - it didn't happen very often, and I enjoyed the chance to snuggle with her.

However, she just turned 5, and suddenly, it's like she sprouted sharp pointy elbows and knees and limbs overnight. Now when she gets in bed, she takes up a ton of room, I keep getting jabbed and poked because she keeps tossing and turning, she repeatedly stretches and sticks her fingers in my eyes, etc. It's just become a lot less enjoyable and I don't get any decent sleep at all. So when she ends up in our room in the middle of the night and wants to snuggle, I tell her she can stay for a little while, but then I am going to help her go back to her own bed. 10 or 15 minutes of snuggle time and then she's good - she's never protested going back to her own room after.

My daughter is 7 and I allow it. My ex-husband on the other hand can't stand this (I think it's his wife who feels this way). He actually told me that because I let her sleep with me a lot of times that she is going to be attracted to the first jerk that comes along! Uummm, my parents never let me sleep with them growing up and I was still attracted to a jerk! I figure that since she is independent in most other areas then it's okay. We have always been very close since her dad and I separated and for a while it was just her and I. She's already acting like a teenager so I know the time is coming when she isn't going to want me around that much. :(

I often sleep terribly with my kids in bed. So I will at times take them back after they've gone back to sleep. Otherwise I enjoy the snuggle while it lasts and suffer the next day.

I responded to an earlier question about this. My kids slept in their own cribs/bed and rooms from day ONE. However, around the ages of 3-4, they would get up around 3am and come in our room and want to sleep with us. I told them they could come in and sleep on the floor on my side of the bed. I did not make it comfy for them, they slept on the carpet with whatever they brought with them (blanket, pillow, stuffed animal, or nothing). Each of my kids did this for awhile and then just stopped on their own. I think my daughter did it for several months, my son only for a couple weeks. They are now 12 and 9. I've never made going to bed a fight with them and it never has been an issue at our house, but I was blessed with great sleepers. =)

My son does this. We do not make him go back to his own room. He's almost 3, but he's really tiny, so he doesn't take up much room, lol. Both my husband and I are fine with it. I prefer that he start out the night in his own bed, because it makes falling asleep easier for me. Honestly, I usually don't even realize he has crawled in with us until the morning, because he doesn't try to wake us up, he just climbs up and falls immediately back to sleep in the middle. I suppose once he's school age, like 5, if he's still doing this I would make an effort to stop it. Both because it would be too crowded and also because we all would sleep better in our own beds, which would be important for school.

Mine don't do that but they DO come in after 6:30am, sometimes. I allow that. It's annoying. I prefer they'd just continue to sleep in their own bed. The problem is when 3 do this, then they all kick and fight each other for space. I do not like this. If I send them back to their rooms, they get loud and wake the baby. And once the baby is up, it's all over!

When my children were little, in particular my son, they would always go to bed in their own bed and sleep until the middle of the night. He would wake up and come into our room just about every night. We did not want children in bed with us so I just set up a blanket on the floor for him and he brought his pillow with him. It was really no big deal and he did this until I finally decided to get up and put him back in his bed when he came in. I only had to do that a few nights and he slept in his own room throughout the entire night. Some mornings I would have three children scattered around the room when I got up for work. It didn't seem like a big deal then and it doesn't now either. Some people like to make this parenting thing way to difficult. Really just go with what you are comfortable with.

My DD does it a couple of nights a week at least. Usually she comes over in the morning just before I have to get up anyways.
I like it... it's some extra snuggle time and some extra sleep for me (better than me having to get up and comfort her in her room or just get up early).

Sometimes when it is too early I will carry her back into her room, since there really is not enough space in our bed (it's a full size only) for her to sleep there the entire night.

Nope, no age limit. I am sure it will stop in her tweens... and I will miss it.
Good luck.

I can't sleep when someone is touching me, so no kids in my bed, unless they are younger than 8 weeks.

If you're fine with it, then it's fine!!

My kiddo co-slept till she was 3. Then I had her move into her own room. During this transition if she came into my room during the night, I walked her back to hers. It sucked getting out of bed to do this instead of just letting her crash in my bed, but I couldn't sleep with her anymore. Now (she's 6) she only comes in when she has a nightmare, so I allow it. I still can't sleep with her in there though.....

My kids are 3 and 4.5. They both still do this. Now we keep their sleeping bags nearby. If it is pretty early on in the night then we do walk them back to their rooms. Many times they are half asleep, so we just have to tuck them back in. If it is closer to 5 or 6am when it's getting close to waking up anyway. (My husband gets up at 6am for work and a couple days a week, I am up by 4:45 to workout) then we just let them stay. I don't mind it so much and they love sleeping in their sleeping bags. They think they are camping! My husband wants to nip it, but I think it will eventually work itself out naturally. I love my snuggle time in the morning with my kids. I agree with you-it won't last forever!!
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If it is a one of, like every now and then I don't mind. When it becomes a habit then we have to deal with it.

I let it go for a while during my divorce because I felt bad for them but god that was a bad habit to break!

Depends on whether or not it disrupts your sleep or theirs. If everyone just gets comfy and sleeps fine, no big deal. When my kids do that, my husband and I can't fall back to sleep and end up having a tough day, so I don't allow it. I snuggle with them after reading a book at bedtime!