Just Moved, Son Started Day Care and Won't Sleep in His Bed!

Guess he has had a lot of changes. I am the kind of person who goes with
the flow. Sounds like he wants to be close to you. I would let him sleep
with you if that's what he needs. When my daughter was 2, I was very
ill and in the hospital for 7 weeks. When I came home she would not sleep
in her room. She needed to be close to me so I let her. It worked for us.
She had been thru enough, and I did not want to make matters worse. A lot
of moms would not agree with me. You have to do what works best for
you. Good luck.

Hi M. :-)

It sounds as if your son is experiencing some anxiety about "change" and "loss". He was sleeping happily in his own bed, in his own home, with his own nanny.. and then POOF! He wakes up one day and it's all gone! Not only is it gone, but he has to now spend the day in a new place, which is different than his new home which is different than all the things he thought were stable in his world.

I agree with the moms who say introduce him during the day to his new room. If he is in day care all week, then spend a lot of time during the weekends in there. You can "play" taking naps, or begin to encourage real ones in his bed.. does he have the same bed from the old home?

You might investigate children's books on "moving" and how to adapt. Establish a new "routine" as soon as you can to begin to reestablish his sense of normalcy and feeling that his world is under his control again.

You say he is scared to sleep in his room, but have not qualified that so I'm not sure what he is saying, but for the time being, I would allow him to be with you in this BIG transition. Being all alone in a NEW room in a NEW home without his nanny is a big bag full of changes, go slowly and I feel he will eventually feel safe and venture out, again.

Hugs,
A. R.N., Energy Medicine Practitioner

I would try to spend more time in his room during the day, and let him get used to the room. It sounds like a big transition that would certainly take some getting used to, going from his usual surroundings and 1 on 1 care to daycare. I wonder if it is more the fact that he wants to spend time with you, than of him being scared to sleep in his own room.

Lots of changes.
Stay in his room for a while at night while he falls asleep. Let him sleep with you for a while, play in the new room in the day, make sure you are there early to pick him up from daycare so he is never the last to go.
He is regressing a bit because of all the cahnges. Pretty soon he will be OK.
We are military, have moved many times with toddlers. New rooms are scary and I had to let a few rules slide a bit to get reestablished into the new home routine.

I would just let him sleep in your bed for now. He is going through alot of changes and needs the comfort of knowing you will always be there.

Hi M.
I will be unpopular for saying this but I would let him sleep in a mattress in your room or dare I say in your bed for a while (not for ever though !!lol)
He might just need extra reassurane,love and attention at the moment as a result of these numerous changes in his life.
I have a three year old as well and it amazes me how clued in they are about their little world.
Give him the extra now that he needs and you can worry about getting him back to his own room once he is settled into his new way of life
Best of luck
B.

Here are a few sleeping tips that might help but they are not specified for situation...sorry I can't give more concrete advice, but hopefully the info in the link will help you out. Good luck!

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We went through this when we moved and our son started preschool. I'm afraid I don't really have any helpful advice to make the transition quick. In our case there may have been more things relating to preschool that were causing the anxiety for our son; but for your son, going from nanny to daycare that might be similar.

Our son wouldn't stay in his bed. He would go to sleep there if we stayed til he went to sleep, but he would wake in the night and come in with us. I may be unpopular, but I let him. We did try the following... not staying in til he fell asleep, sleeping next to his bed, letting him sleep next to our bed, letting him sleep with us. Sometimes it improved a bit, but then he'd still come in.

It really depend on how comfortable you are with letting him sleep with you. Our bed just wasn't big enough. I would try letting him sleep on a mattress or sleeping bag next to your bed until he feel safe enough to be on his own.

Good luck!

I would just let him sleep with you until he gets used to all fo the changes. Poor little guy...he just wants his Momma so that he feels secure. He won't sleep with you forever.
Lynsey