Joint Birthday Party Wording

Updated on May 23, 2013
K.C. asks from Lewisburg, PA
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I'm having a birthday party for my daughter turning 5 and son turning 2. Their birthdays are 2 days apart. I'm inviting some her friends from pre-school and don't want them to feel like they have to also bring a gift for her brother. Is there a way to word this so guests do not feel obligated to bring two gifts. Thank you!

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M.F.

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I did separate invitations for my daughter's preschool friends that invited them to celebrate her birthday, with no mention that it was a joint party. Friends and family got an invite to celebrate both birthdays. That way the preschool friends didn't feel obligated to bring a present for my son and the kids had a wonderful joint party.

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L.M.

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I suggest doing separate invitation for your daughter's friends and doing combined invitations for family and joint or family friends.

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S.H.

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i would not mention him on the invitation to her friends. i was invited to a double party and had no idea until i showed up. it was for a 4 year old (son's friend) and a 6 year old who had her own friends. If i had known i would have brought something for the big sis, but i think the mom handled it very well.

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O.O.

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Just act like the party is for the child the frien knows. No mention of the other celebration or they WILL feel obligated to buy for both, and I know that's not your intention.

Best!

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M.P.

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I have this same predicament every year. My son and daughter's bdays are 4 days apart. We just send separate invites. For her little friends, we send one with her name on it only, and for him the same. Parents don't even realize it's a joint party until they get there. I don't see why they even need to know it's a party for two kids (unless they know both children).

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B.P.

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I'd just do a seperate party for your daughter five is an important kid age. They are now kids n not preschoolers

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A.L.

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Boss Fan has a great idea.. I second it!!

good luck and happy birthday to the kids!

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P.K.

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Personally I would not do both at the same time. Five year old girls want their special time and do not want to be bothered by babies. Let her have her day. Five is such a magical and exciting age. Just my opinion. Family birthday party can be joint.

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N.F.

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Some good ideas as far as invitations. I think when it comes to gifts, people usually just do what they want. My neighbor has twin girls. Last year we bought one bigger gift for the 2 girls, some craft thing, since we knew they both liked crafts. That may not always work out, but when you know the family and kids, I think there are some creative ideas that will work.

M.D.

answers from Washington DC on

I'm glad you asked this. I've combined parties for my boys before because they have a lot of the same friends.

This year, all 3 kids are doing a pool party together. I'm not set on how I'm going to word the invite yet or how I'll do it, but I need to do it soon before school is out!

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G.B.

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I wouldn't even mention him on her invitations. Just put his name on the cake too and bring him a lot of gifts. Then let them open them at different times. Maybe his first then cake then hers. That way she and her friends can be playing and doing stuff while he's having his little party. He'll be so busy playing with his new toys that he won't even notice she's having a party anymore.

A.W.

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Yep - we do what Boss Fan said. :)

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K.C.

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If you're inviting two groups of people, you can send two separate invitations - one for your daughter and one for your son. Your guests don't need to know that it's a joint party.

My friend is throwing a party for her kids in a couple of weeks. Several of the people invited have children of both ages, but many don't. Her invitations said:

Jimmy is 6
and
Sally is 3!
Come join us for a carnival.....

I have kids both ages, so I'm bringing two gifts. Another friend only has a six year old and said she would probably only bring something for the older one, but might get something very small for the other.

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