JFF Wish They Wouldn't Have Left Out That Info

DON'T get me started. There is soooo many things.

MY NUMBER ONE ISSUE..you do NOT always drop the baby weight by breastfeeding. I GAINED weight. I went two years and five days with my son and was basically tied to the house. I was home all day long and ate. Getting out would have been a good idea if I had some type of help.

Number two...not all grandparents want to help. Sometimes they are ANTI help. THAT SUCKS! They BEGGED for grandkids and now can't be bothered to call and ask about the kid(s.)

Number three...there's a HUGE difference between older moms and younger moms. Same goes for SAHM's and working moms.

I could go on but I have a million things to get done before 6 am and if I don't start now we're gonna have a hot morning nightmare....

It could be that they had none of these "scars". I did not have any of the above described battle wounds. I do however have a C-section scar, a stretched out belly button, and stretch marks on my once taught and sexy belly, hemorrhoids, an anal fissure that ended in surgery, and bags under my eyes and the youth drained right out of my every pour. What I seem to remember is that I was warned about "how hard it is". but I was not listening. And I'm glad I wasn't for fear that I may have delayed longer than I did to have kids. Don't get me wrong, I hated being pregnant. Dare I even say, I hate taking home a new born and caring for it while recovering from a C-section. But what I wish some one had told me was; don't wait too long to have kids, you may find that you love it more than you could have imagined. Don't let it get too late so as to rule out a big family. I wish someone had told me that the career ladder I was climbing would never fulfill me the way being a mother would. That having money and success wouldn't fill me the way a house full of sweat/ and spunky children would. I wish someone had told me that I would love my kids so much more than my own body! That if your marriage is good to begin with, having kids with that person is about the most intimate thing you can do. As it is I'm glad i was def to the warnings that it was hard. Yes it was. 10 x harder than what I expected. Good thing I didn't listen. Its worth it.
I do however wish someone had told me to invest in descant maternity cloths because I would still be wearing them for 6 months postpartum and beyond!

Well I know for damn sure I wish someone had NEVER told me that you'll poop while giving birth. But as far as things I wished someone would have told me, that would be that it is possible to grow out of maternity clothes. Who would have thought that 3 weeks before I gave birth you'd find me in the maternity section for a new dress to wear to church cause the rest of mine were too small!!!

I think women tend to leave out all the uncomfortable stuff lol
I always tell women I'm not your glowing happy out shopping & decorating, & nesting pregnant lady lol I am more like miserable, sick (heaving all the time even on zofran) terrible headaches, backaches, sciatica pain, hips popping in & out pain, boobs leaking, peeing my pants every time i sneeze pregnant lady lol while it wouldnt have changed anything (obviously I'm on my fourth pregnancy this time twins) I dont feel the need to gloss it over lol its totally worth it (well I mean if I were totally rich I would probably have a surrogate ) because I love love my babies/kids but pregnancy is not what it's cracked up to be by some or reality tv lol
people are always giving me rude unsolicited comments about how many kids we have/will have, dont we know how to prevent this, & omg you're huge! & you're not even half way! it's so tacky & rude!

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That Shaklee's Chewable Cal-Mag would clear up indigestion/heartburn. I would eat 1/2 bottle of Tums every night to no avail!

Really? my boobs looked better after I had a baby. my prepregnancy bra size was a barely 32A. they went up to a 34B and actually look perkier. What I wish someone would have told me is just because the baby is nice and quiet in the hospital doesn't mean they will be quiet once you get them home.
Seoulmom I totatly agree about the rude comments. I gained 120 pds with my son because of nutrition issues and was very sensitve. When I was 7 mnths along tons of people kept saying "oh my god you look like you're ready to pop. Are you having twins?"

I wish I was told to plan on double the walking time to somewhere, so that when my hip popped out, I would have time to stand there and "work" it back in before I continued on my way. Fun times, especially since I was teaching kindergarted of all things, lol!

That it is possible for you to be too big to fit in maternity clothes and the women's section may become your best place to find something that fits. That a sitz bath with Dreft in it works wonders for the episiotomies. Breastfeeding is not necessarily natural, and your baby may need to be taught to latch on properly. You will still need maternity clothes to come home from the hospital.

Well...I clearly remember looking at my adorable, perky, size A-B boobs in the mirror a few days before I had my DD (my 1st).
I knew they would never be the same after she was born (I didn't get "pregnancy boobs").
I remember being really, really sad about it, but knowing it was just life.

So I'm not sure how knowing in advance would make it any better. :(

What I wish someone HAD told me-to not put any expectations on my unborn children and their unknown personalities.
I had this wonderful vision of my life w/ my DD...and lets just say God had other plans. ;)

Hahahahaha! So true , and most important that the food you are eating is going to your body not to the baby....

N., those kind of bladder problems are not normal and can be fixed (but they are common after pregnancy). Mention it to your doctor and see if they can send you to a "women's health" physical therapist who can help you retrain your muscles. Hope this helps!

How really important Kegals (sp?) are. I think the bladder issues wouldn't have and still can be bad. That stretch marks come on hard and fast so take care of them from the beginning.

Luckily I like my boobs much better now than before. Actually I am kinda scared that if I have another baby what would happen to them. :)
That your energy level will go into the negatives.

Oh my, I did not enjoy pregnancy at all. Hair started growing out of strange places, peeing constantly, having no shoes that fit. I always said I would never waddle like a penguin at the end of pregnancy but boy I had no control over it!! You would also think that I had a lobotomy as whenever people spoke to me I was like that goofy chipmunk out of chip n dale. "DUH" haha. Folks must have thought I was drunk!!! We were over at my friends one night recently looking through old pictures and my friend used to be well endowed (pre-children) but now she is like a teenage boy!! lol Her 16 yr old son said "wow mom, what happened to you" Her husband said "You are what happened" lol It was so funny and her son just started laughing!! Huh kids!!!

Check, check, check. Yep, those are a few things that usually don't get warnings for but all moms will laugh about later. I guess you forget about those small things once they hand you that baby and every time you look in their eyes .. you fall in love over and over again! Personally, would prefer to just share the highlights with friends/family and learn the rest on my own and just consider it "building character!"