JFF What Is the Most Annoying or Personal Question You Have Got While Pregnant??

Seeing pregnant me with a 4 yr old & 18 month old..."Oh, were you TRYING to get pregnant?" got that one a few times. I was about ready to start answering that question with a "No, I just asked for a back massage."

I didn't get anything particularly off the wall, but I got really sick of everyone and their mother wanting to know if I was "planning on breastfeeding." I mean don't get me wrong, breastfeeding is great, but it really started to feel invasive after a while, when even male coworkers I barely worked with, etc., wanted to know my feeding plans for my baby.

It wasn't the questions, it was the horror stories. Someone always knew a story about someone who miscarried/carried until the birth and then.... etc. etc. etc. While these women were having their gossipy or therapeutic experience sharing their own disappointing horror stories (I am not a certified counselor! Don't treat me like a therapist!), I was just wanting to run away, screaming. :)

Meagan M, you cracked me up, esp. the lines about looking at the woman as if she had snakes coming out of her head, and potentially leaving an over-sharing mom in the car! Hoot!

My Father in Law once asked me if I was doing my Kegels exercises.

I was in line at the drug store buying all the last minute things right before our daughter's birth ... you know, the big pads, the epson salts, preparation H ... there was a line behind me full of men for some reason and the checker must have figured out that I was buying my stash before giving birth because I was literally ready to pop. As she rings up the Prep H, she starts telling me about the horrendous hemorrhoids that she got when she was pregnant -- in a really loud voice. I almost died!!! I practically ran out of the store. Well, no, really I just lumbered out with a red face.

This wasn't while I was pregnant but afterwards...I had twins boy/girl and people would ask me if they were identical. SERIOUSLY!!!!! I would look at them and say, "they're a boy and girl" (which was very obvious, by the way) and people still wouldn't get it, but I figure if your dumb enough to ask that question then you need to go back and do some research about boys and girls.

Meaning...you HAVE to be the same sex to be identical, boys and girls CAN'T be identical. They don't have the same (XX or XY) chromosomes.

One woman actually asked me if I knew the exact date and time I conceived! She was a total stranger asking about me having sex... Then she said, "well I hope he sticks around." Wtheck?! We weren't married at the time, but whose business is that?! Some people...

PS, since then, my husband and i have had another baby and gotten married (a L. out of order, but who cares?) :-)

When I was pregnant with twins, complete strangers had the most ridiculous questions/comments for me. The minute someone found out I was expecting twins everyone had a "twin" story for me. Sighhhh. Or "I'm a twin and I hate my sister." Thanks. One woman proceeded to tell me that her "sister had twins and didn't get a single stretch mark! Can you believe it! Do you have stretch marks?" She actually stood there and waited fo my answer (this was in the middle of the supermarket!). Ugh. I also had older ladies (grandmother type of ladies) ask if I was planning a vaginal birth or a C-section. Again, complete strangers in public places! One of my favorites was "Are you going to breastfeed?" I didn't mind the question, it was the reaction to my answer that annoyed me. When I would answer "Yes" they would just stare at me and ask "How in the world are you going to do that??!" This quesiton would follow me through the babies 1st year of life.... "Oh god, you breastfeed?? How does that work?" I got creative with my answers and just told people thats why God gave me two boobs.
Best wishes at your doctors appt!!!

I was really sick with the flu and I ended up in the ER for fluids. I was being asked a bunch of questions. I told the nurse I was 4 month pregnant and due in May, she responded with "of what year"? I looked at her and wanted to say really...I'm not an elephant!!! Ugh...

I was so small when I was pregnant that nobody could tell there was a baby in there until I was around 6 months and then I started showing a little. I'm a cashier so I see a lot of people every day and I got at least 30 people a day asking me when I was due. During the end of my pregnancy they just couldn't believe that I was due in a couple of days. They kept looking at me, trying to figure out if I was lying to them about my due date. Even my dentist and my eye doctor didn't believe how far along I was when I had to go see them during my pregnancy. It didn't bother me at first but towards the end I actually went up to my boss and said, "If one more person asks me how far along I am, and then doesn't believe me... I am going to unleash 9 months of bottled up pregnancy hormones on them!" Lol

A pregnant belly seems to be the unspoken green light for other women to unleash their horror stories of labor & delivery!

Uh----thanks? :)

"Wow, you barely look pregnant! That must be a tiny baby." Uh, no, I'm just tall and slim -- pre-kids at least -- so I don't show much and trust me, that is one heavy baby in there (both kids almost 9 lbs. at birth).

"Are you going to breastfeed?" Why in the world do you want to know, unless you're about to slam me for our choice to bottlefeed?

I'm an older mom. . . I had #1 when I just turned 43. I got pregnant with #2 when #1 was 8 months old. When I was about 7 months pregnant with #2 I was in a store with #1. I was very pregnant looking. A clerk stops me, looks at #1 and says "Isn't it great being a grandmother?" I could have strangled her! :-)

How much weight have you gained? You look like you're about to pop? (I was 6 months along with my second pregnancy and my doctor wanted me to gain more weight... I'm just built that way.)

Grrrr!

Dawn

The most invasive I found is "Were you taking anything to get pregnant?" I guess because I am having twins, they assume I was on fertility treatments. I just find this question to be completely personal. I had many friends that were on fertility treatments and didn't want anyone to know, so for strangers to ask me I think it odd. Also, I love how people assume we are done having kids after the twins. We will have 3, as if that is the magic number. I've heard, "at least you don't have to get pregnant again" or "your don't want anymore after this right?". I don't, we are done, but for strangers to just assume that we are done at 3 is funny to me, as if we're not suppose to have more than 3 kids. Funny thing is, my friend choose to only have one kid and she gets constantly asked when she is having more or why she isn't having anymore.

When pregnant with my twins, I knew I was going to have a c-section. "What?! Your doctor isn't going to let you try?" Ummm, when you've pushed two babies out your vagina, you can question what I plan to do with mine. My babies ended up being two eight-pounders, so I'm sooooo glad I didn't!

And, the funny thing is when pregnant with my twins (over 16 lbs combined) only one person asked how many babies were in there. But, when I has my singleton (who was 10.5 pounds), I was asked daily if I was having twins. Go figure!

Nothing really annoying, just funny. With my first pregnancy my 5th graders gave me a baby shower on Friday afternoon. When I came to school on Monday (still obviously VERY pregnant) one of my boys asked me if I had my baby over the weekend. I wish it worked that way-- you have the shower and BAM! out comes the baby.

Was it planned? My sister-in-law kept asking until I told her yes, this was a PLANNED pregnancy.

Someone asked me when I'm going to induce as if that is just automatic. Last week someone saw me with my 3-year-old at the grocery store. She then went on to tell me "you think your life changed having 1 kid, wait until you have 2." To which I told her that I already have 2, and this is my 3rd. Why do people have to be so negative?

A co-worker I didn't know well asked if I'd gotten the "line" from belly button down yet..... ugh!

Edited: Just remembered another one! I had a high-risk pregnancy with numerous (daily at the end) ultrasounds. I was told and knew I'd have a girl. These were the high-tech (for 1993), color, etc, ultrasounds.

They tried to induce me 10 days early. Kept coming in & asking "are you going to circumcise?" Over & over. And I kept saying "I'm having a girl!" Finally, I realized that they wanted "yes" or "no" and <smacking forehead> picked an answer for them. whew....

I was at the grocery store and I turned around and the lady in front of me said "OMG your pregnant". I said, "yes I am, while looking down at my very large belly. She then says "do your parents know?" I said, "yes they do and are thrilled as is my husband". She said "oh thank goodness, I thought you were 16 years old". :) Okay so I liked that! :) Hubby didn't find it very amusing.

With our son, we didn't know and the funny thing said was by my husband. Right after the doctor pulled him out (had a c-section) and said "its a boy" my husband said "are you sure"? Ha loved that!

"Are you going to keep it?"
This came from my employer at the time, a fundamentalist Christian who tried to convince me that, because I was single and had broken up with her dad before I even knew I was pregnant, I should give up my daughter at birth so that she could be adopted and raised in a "real family." I told him that she was going to be raised in a real family - MY family.

I also had perfect strangers come up and put their hands on my belly - and they acted surprised when I slapped their hands away.

I was very late with two of my babies. And all I heard every day was, "you haven't had the baby yet!" or "when are you going to have that baby" I got so frustrated at a certain point that I just broke down crying the moment my dad said it to me.

I had this coworker that would constantly remark about my belly:
"Oh wow, you are getting so big, you know I gained just 5 pounds in my pregnancy." As if that's even possible or healthy! Literally, she told me this twice or more times a week. I would tell her that I was right on track for weight gain (gained 22lbs overall, not too shabby). She was somewhat elderly, so I didn't really know how to handle her near daily comments, but one day her boss overheard her, and spoke to her about it. From then on, it was "what a big, beautiful belly you have!" :/

Just shut it!

Probably "is it twins?".......and i wasnt really all that big.........annoying.

A friend of mine, or so I thought, asked me how many stretch marks I got.... Thankfully, I am witty and responded "just one, but I pre stretched my body years ago" (ie was a heavy girl for a good chunk of young adulthood!). My wonderful father, who also felt it necessary to come in within minutes of delivery (I really wish the staff would've made them wait longer) thought this was a perfect family picture moment (relly, in labor for 17 hours and you think I WANT to play Glamour shots????) and thathe honestly believed that the pimple I had on my cheek was a stretch mark. Keep in mind I was being pumped with fluids for the prior ten hours since admission.... what a ____@____.com!!! I secretly hoped he would've fallen right in the pool of blood that was still on the floor....can you tell we have a tough relationship....HAHAHA. Thinking of this still makes me chuckle! Good question!

I had one guy who belonged to a charity group that we belong to ask me if I had checked with the dr to make sure I wasn't pregnant with twins...I was 4 1/2 months prego and had gained 1/2 a pound....I about knocked him out!

I never got any questions fortunately. But what I never understood was the belly poke. Really?!? I don't know you so why are you touching me? And do I look like the fat jolly guy in the red suit - don't you dare answer!