Dear HB
I hesitate to 'tread this water'...as I have been back looking for answers from others...so here goes!
I LOVE that I have alot of kids...
I think...there are many lessons learned more 'easily' when you are a part of a 'bigger' family...
Examples:...sharing...compassion...cooperation...
This is NOT to say these lessons cannot be...or are NOT learned with fewer 'kinder'...just that...in a bigger family...they are often an inherent way of life...
I have a LOT of 'funny stories/situations'...as do my 'fewer childrened' friends...and we SHARE!
WE (ex and I) were trying to 'round off' our family with # 6...and it was twins...one with profound medical issues. We were in a financial situation where all would have been well...but sorry to say, the stresses from this proved too much for my ex...(and clearly our marriage)...
I would NOT do it any other way...
I love my kids as a group...and as the individuals they are becoming...
IMO...what ever # of children one is blessed with IS the # you are to have....
I have many funny stories (as ALL parents of ANY # of kids have)...I may have more of them...due to sheer # of kids...that is all...
Hope this helps...
michele/cat
*** ETA...as per 'bee'...
All of my children have college accounts...the eldest graduates in may...
I do not own a farm...and my children are not pets...
SHAME on bee...