Is This Wrong? - Dallas,TX

I think it's wrong to not tell anyone until after & even more wrong to "take the baby" early because you're miserable.

I do think that is WRONG! I think you should tell them and just let them know that you don't want anyone there and then if something were to go wrong or you needed something, then you could call them and they would be ready to help you.

My family lives out of town they all knew the expected date but when I found out he date I would deliver I did not tell them. I did call after delivery and if memory serves right my parents did not come to visit untll a week later with all three of my children.

If you want to minimize the visitors that's fine, but don't exclude your mom! You WILL want someone that has seen it all to help you. I had a horrible experience with the nurses not helping after my C-section and I was grateful for my mom! If you need time alone, tell them to go see a movie or something! But you will at least want your mom!

Good luck

It's your body, your baby, your giving birth-IT'S YOUR CALL!!

PK,

No, you are not wrong! Just be honest. Tell them you don't want any visitors, and that is that. This is 100% your decision, and if your family members don't understand, too bad! Wishing you a wonderful birth!

No, you aren't wrong, but be honest about it. People get hurt when others aren't up front about how they feel.

You are not wrong!! I have birthed 9 children and my advice is to "have it your way". I have not had a c-section, but my 3 daughters have, and I know it is much different than a natural delivery. Each one of them had a hard time enjoying breastfeeding because of the pain, so make it as easy as you can on yourself. Be patient with yourself as well, since recovery is so much harder with a c-section. You kind of have to hold your breath for a few weeks until you get better.

Another tactic might be to talk with your mother or anyone else who might overstep and let them know how you feel. I tried to be very respectful with my daughters. I told them I would help them in any way I could, but they had to ask me first so I knew I was helping instead of being in the way. (All of their husband took a week off when they had the baby, so I knew they were looking forward to family time.) I made food and stocked their freezer before the baby came so they were taken care of that way. I called and asked before I visited and found that they were usually eager for me to visit, but felt free to let me know when she wasn't up for it. I'm sure your mom is so excited about the baby and if you ask for help with meals or something else, she may feel OK about not invading. Maybe honesty could work for you with your mother. If you don't think so, do what you want to do. It's your baby!!

PK,
I think a new baby is a joyous event to be celebrated, but I respect your feelings that you want to have some alone time to bond/nurse the baby. My only question would be, do you think you're a little depressed? It sounds like you might be kind of down (you don't want any visitors) and if you're feeling a little out of it now, you might want to let your doctor know because it could get worse after the birth.

I've had 2 c-sections and the nurses do a really good job at managing your pain. They tell you to ask for meds BEFORE it starts to hurt, because it's harder to get the pain under control versus keeping it at bay so be sure to do that and you'll be fine.

No, I don't think so. I know how you feel and company can be a bit intrusive as nice as everyone is. The only negative would be you have the potential of having very little help and moral support. However, if you feel that the hopspital and your husband can provide then you should be good to go. You may want to expect some hurt feelings. good luck

I felt the same way--it's crazy that people crowd the hospital room of a new mom--right when you need all the quiet and rest you can get! It's YOUR time--if you able, tell everyone that you'd love visitors when you get home or whenever you are ready...When I had my first child, I was exhausted by all that--and none of the visitors were really helpful--especially my mom! (I was making her lunch the day after I got home from the hospital while she sat and held the baby!) When my second was born, I told her she could come about 10 days later. It was a nice visit--she still didn't help but I was on my feet by that time! Good luck!

Have you had a C-section before? I had two and didn't have any pain problems at all. I will say that it was also nice to have someone who allowed me to stay put while they took brought me the baby and kept it taken care of while I rested.

Between you and me - my mother tends to wear me out and I understand wanting a little peace, but maybe you should ask her to wait until you really need her and come after you leave the hospital or suggest she be with the kids until you get home from the hospital because you know they will be well take car of.

Just a thought - good luck!

I think you'll need to tell them everything...even the part about visitation times. Just express to them that you'd love to have company once you get home and not at the hospital if that's what you want. Otherwise, feelings will definitely be hurt, and it's probably not worth it in the long run.

I had a c-section and I breastfed my son from the start until he was 1 yr old. I asked visitors to leave the room when I fed, and sometimes they would just go home from there. Same thing at home, just go to the baby's room to feed and say that you'd rather not expose yourself to everyone and not allow anyone in the room except your spouse if that's what you'd like. However, just remember if you're monitor is on/off so you don't say anything by accident and regret later.

It's such a joyous, yet stressful time all at the same, right? I wish you the best dear!

I did not allow anyone but my husband at the hospital for the birth of either of my children. We made it clear that was what we wanted and they would be called when the boys were born or if there was a problem. My mother called the room because it was taking so long, my husband answered and in the middle of a contraction I very impolitely yelled get off of the phone I will call her when I am done. It is your decision and a very personal and private time and no one else needs to be there unless you want them there. If you had family there for prior births this may be a little harder to explain. good job on deciding to breast feed That is the best thing you can do for your baby. It may be difficult but rely on la leche league and lactation nurses and they will be very helpful. Good luck.

I felt the same way with my first baby. We called once she was born, but said I wasn't up for visitors at this time. Mind you, some of my husband's family came anyway. :) Once I got over the hormones and realized it wasn't me they were coming for, it was ok. You didn't say what arrangements you had for your other kids while you're in hospital, but if you think your mom might feel left out, you could ask her to watch them. That way she's likely going to be one of the first to know (which really seems to be the issues with moms) and she's doing something productive to really help you. Just please make sure she's the first (with your older kids) to see the new baby.

good luck. You don't want to alienate anyone as with the c-section you're likely to need a lot of help when you get home.

I didn't let my family know when I went into the hospital (I'll spare you the details but my whole family was mad at me about something and I couldn't deal with them right then). Now, over two years later, they are still holding it over my head. My advice is to let them know. THEN . . . let the nurses be the bad guys. It is part of their job and they are happy to do it (at least that was my experience for both my children). Just tell them you want to be left alone and they won't let visitors in your room and they'll take the blame. Tell them how you feel when you get there and they'll take care of everything. Girl, I totally understand where YOU are coming from and you aren't wrong but people tend to forget all the ordeal that you are going through and take things way too personally. You're not going to want to alienate your family. (Another thing you could do is have your hubby call them when you are really close to giving birth so they can't arrive too early). Whatever happens, good luck and congrats!!

PK, I have two daughters, the first was a c-section and the second was a v-back. Other people had me worried (alot) about the c-section, but it was just as amazing as my v-back. Just my husband was there (both times) and my in laws came just after the phone call (they lived close) and I asked my parents to come in a couple of weeks (they lived much further). Breast feeding was the same for both...it took forever to come in. The first time (c-section) I though it was because it was not natural, but as I found out with my second, it is just the way I am.

Be honest with your parents, tell them you feel that you need a little time with just your husband. Accept their help with a greatful heart to be there with your other kids.

By the way, a c-section is really not that bad. Your wonderful baby will give you all the reasons that you need to get back into the swing of things quickly.

Blessings on your birth, TW

Gosh, NO! Any reasonable person will understand...maybe a little hurt, but understand. I assume you've never had a c/s...really, it's not that bad. I've only had c/secs (not by choice, but that's besides the point) and it's really no big deal...you'll be on pain meds. I breastfed both mine with no problems at all. It's difficult because of the numbness at first, but that's easily fixed w/a little propping up. Good luck to you and keep that baby in as long as you can :)...it only gets harder! but so much fun.

This is just my opinion! I would let people know what is going on and tell them to make visits short! Just be up front and honest with them. As a mother, I would be hurt if one of my boys and their wives didn't tell us about what was going on. I would want to come to the hospital. You need to think of how others would feel as well. Just think of the outcome before you make any hasty decisions.

I try to be open minded when it comes to everyone's opinions with child birth but have you considered how long you'll be in the hospital? Won't you feel like having company any? I was wanting visitors for many reasons but I would most definitely not want to deny grandparents from seeing their grandchild. I would tell my husband that I was feeling tired so please don't let them stay too long and he was good about putting it gently to the visitors. If you have other kids, won't you need help with them?
I know sometime visitors can add stress to your life but I would hate for you to damage relationships over this. This isn't a small thing you want to keep a secret. I would be so hurt if my family omitted telling us. I am a nursing mom too and am very modest but don't feel like I should live behind a closed door just because of this. This is how my kid eats and this is our life right now: boob world!
Good luck in your decision. I hope you find a happy medium.

heck no, in my personal opinion!!! :)
i was potentially facing a c-section and i had 2 friends coming in from out of town to help me since my husband was going ot be away on mandatory business... while i was grateful for their willingness to come and help me out, i was TERRIFIED of them being there right after the surgery and the whole i-need-to-be-topless-all-day-to-breastfeed (lol!) stage and the "yuckiness" or being immediately post partum! fortunately, i went into labor and was able to deliver by my 2nd vbac so it ended up not being an issue. my friends are still coming to help out, but now i won't be freaking out about it b/cs of all the above reasons!
then again, i'm not close to any of my extended family other than one sister, so perhaps if you ARE pretty close to some of them, maybe you could say "we're scheduling the section on such and such a date, but we'd like to delay family and friend visits til X date." of all my mommy girlfriends, i can't imagine anyone being offended by this!! it's YOUR body, baby, and perrogative (sp?) to be comfortable, especially in that vulnerable period to get breastfeeding going (boy do i know.. we're one week into it and still struggling!!)...
good luck!

Wrong? I don't know....I think it is a very personal decision for you and hubby.

As for me? I was not a breastfeeder so that did not matter, and I went in to be induced but I told no one. The day after, my neighbor was aware of it and she came by but that was it for hospital visits. After arriving at home, I had neighbors that visited and brought food for 2 weeks which was VERY nice and appreciated.

However, I don't have a supportive family system, everyone is a plane ticket away (on purpose), and I didn't want anyone showing up. I called my favorite aunt after the birth and she shared any news from that point on.

SO, right or wrong.....in some families I'm sure some would be insulted but I personally this is special time for new mom and dad.

Good luck and congratulations.

PK, I have had 2 c-sections and I had breastfeed after that. Trust me, you will want your family there. The c-section is not as painful as you may think. They will give you meds. for the pain but once you see your baby the pain just seems to go away. Regarding your family, once the baby is here those family members want even know your name. They will be so involved with your little baby that you will be lucky to have a conversation with them. If you start to get tired have your husband to tell everyone to leave or get a nurse to do that. You won't be the "bad guy" then. I would also recommend letting the nursery take the baby at night so you can get some rest. You will need that time and they will bring the baby in for feedings. I had both of my babies at Presby. Plano and it was so wonderful. I trust them completely.
The recovery for the c-section is more unconfortable once you get home from the hospital. You can not lift anything or exercise for several weeks. With my 2nd child I was so miserable and could not wait for him to come out. I hung in there for 39 weeks. You can too. I was on bed rest and that drove me crazy also. I would use those automatic wheelchairs at Target and Walmart because I could not walk around that much. You have to hang in there. It is soooo much better for the baby. Trust me, it is easy with the baby inside you because once they are out...look out. You will never get any sleep and the worries begin. Enjoy being pregenant. You only get to be pregnant for the first time once...try and enjoy it.
I hope some of this helps. Good luck to you.

I don't know what your family situation is, but I know that if I did that, I would be the cause of many hurt feelings. You have another alternative if you really do not want visitors (and no, I don't think there is anything wrong with feeling like that).
Tell the nurses that under no circumstances, do you want visitors (not even your mother, etc). They have kept people out of rooms before - they will know how to handle the situation. Then the burden/blame falls on them or the hospital. They can tell the visitor that they can call you - and give them the nurse's station number - then if you want to accept phone calls...you can let them know.
I think you will avoid so much conflict by doing something like this. God bless you!

just tell them that you'll be accepting visitors at home once you've recovered at the hospital. that will give you a few days to recover there, get the breastfeeding down, and then see people. of course i was there for 2 days with my first one and bored/wanting company by the second day, atleast for part of it. thankfully i was only there 1 day for my second baby.

I don't think it is wrong to feel what you are feeling...it is completely understandable to want some alone time with the new baby especially since you have other kids and will have a major surgery. I do think that it would be hurtful if your family didn't know - but surely they would understand, though, restricting the time people are around. You can let the family know ahead of time (or better yet, your husband or someone else can be the "bad guy") and say that visiting hours are restricted to a certain time. That way you have your time with the baby and for healing/rest, but are also allowing the family/friends to be involved in limited amounts. You'd hate to create friction when odds are, you will need their help and not telling them would possibly turn them away for a while. The great thing about having a baby is that you aren't alone in it, so celebrate the good of having family around.

I'd for sure just let friends and family know there are visiting hours and even tell the hospital since I'm pretty sure they can help with the restrictions - just don't leave them out of the joy...hope this helps! Congratulations on the new baby coming soon!

I think you should tell them before the baby is born, but somehow put boundaries about visiting time. It is really not fair to them to make them miss out on the experience as well. I think in the future it would be something you would regret as well. You would be taking a blessing away from them. My family all came to the hospital and I mean like 20 people. However, they let me get sleep, spend quality time with my newborn and to breastfeed without an audience. My husband would just tell them I was about to feed the baby and he would let them know when I was done. They would gladly leave the room and come back when he got them. They gave us plenty of space.

It's completely normal to not want visitors. Some women love the attention after having the baby, others dread it. I am one that dreads it. I only want hubby and kids around, no extended family....even my own Mom!
C-sections are no fun and recovery is very hard the first 24 hours. I'm not sure if it's your first or second but the second one is much easier than the first. If it is your first, prepare to need lots of help from hubby and Mom. Do you think your husband will be upset that you only want your mom and not his mom to come or will he be understanding? I've noticed throughout the years of having children that it's much easier having small amounts of family come to the hospital. My sisters all have children so when they came to visit me, it got pretty chaotic and I kept wishing that I had only told them sooner not to come see the baby until I was feeling better, or at least stay for shorter times. One thing I did learn after having my 3rd from a very helpful nurse is if you are ready for family to leave but don't want to push them out the door yourself : ) then tell the nurse ahead of time that you only want famly staying for approx 30 minutes (or however long you want) and when that time is up, they can come in and nicely ask the guest to leave so you can rest. That way you don't look like the mean guy. : )
Anyhow, good luck to you and if you don't want extra visitors, don't have them. It's your time to recover and bond with your baby. My only regrets after having children is NOT speaking up sooner and telling people to not come until after a few days. Congrats on # 3 and best wishes!

I think it is right to let your closest friends and family know, but tell them you want them to visit you after you get home from the hospital. You can have the hospital put a faux name on your door, so you won't have any surprise guests. If someone shows up after all this (I doubt they would) then I would just grin and bare it for 5 minutes, and tell them you apprciate their visit but you're just exhausted. hope this helps.

PK
You CAN decide WHEN to have company & ask that everyone please respect your decision. Let them know you are going to be tired, taking a lot of pain medication, etc, & that you really need a couple of days (or however long you think) just to bond with your baby.

I think you would offend people MUCH less by telling them how important this is to you, than if they find out latter that you kept the birth from them.

You're going to have hurt feelings no matter which way you decide on, but having someone keep a secret from you feels about as bad as finding out someone just told you a lie.

On another note, if you have never had a c-section & are worried about the pain, relax! I have had two of them. I was scared to death that I wouldn't be able to move & that it would be hard to nurse.

It was really NOT a problem!!! Really:) The nurses keep you very well medicated & they will help you with the nursing. You will be fine, but it is still totally your decision on when you choose to receive visitors.

I have had three c-sections and will be having a 4th in January. I prefer if it is just my husband with me at the hospitol- visitors are welcome after the baby is born and I am feeling better- usually 4-6 hours after the birth or not until the next day. But since you have a little one at home, it is very helpful to have someone- like grandma- there to take care of them. Since you will be in the hospital longer with a c-section, let your mother know that the real help you will need will be when you are not at home with your kids and after when you arrive home with the new baby. You will not be able to lift anything heavier than your infant for at least a month and the first week you will be very sore and having someone at home to help out is a great relief!
I completely understand about not wanting company at the hospitol when you are going through this- I didn't want to have deal with anyone more than my husband and my doctors and my family was very understanding and respected my wishes. I would talk about how you feel with your mom and let her know where her help would be more needed. I'm sure she will understand and you will both feel better.
Good Luck and Congrats!
~C.

Have you had c-sections before? It is painful, but not unbearable. I had 3 c-sections and breastfed all of my kids. I don't think you should not tell your family you had the baby until you get home. I think you can tell them that you would prefer no visitors in the hospital if that is what you want, but I don't think you should hide your delivery. Most people wants what is best for you, and you will need help with your other kids during that time too.

I didnt read all your responses as you have a ton, I just wanted to let you know that I've had 2 c-sections and they really are not that bad. While your in the hospital they give you pain meds that work great and no they dont harm the baby through breast milk. The tough time is going to be when you go home. Then you have to walk around and do thing for yourself.

I suggest allowing visitors while your in the hospital then telling them you need alone time once you go home.

Just my suggestion.

Personally, I would tell them ahead of time but ask that they call before coming to visit as you don't know if you will be up to visitors. That being said it is your decision and hopefully your family will respect that.

As for the c-section...mine was relatively painless. The trick is to stay ahead of your pain meds. Don't be afraid to take a pill if you need it. Everyone's pain tolerance is differnt. I was off all but one pain pill/day when I left the hospital...some people take them longer, some shorter. Do what you need to do for you.

Good luck and enjoy this special time!

I've had two c-sections, and the pain was not horrible. With my second child, the machine did not work that was supposed to dispense the pain medication every time I pushed the button. It gave me two doses, and then stopped. They gave me two more of the machines, which also quickly malfunctioned after a few doses (this was 1992). I finally said to forget it, if I'd made it all day with so little medication, then I could do without it. Everyone's pain tolerance is different (mine usually seems about average compared to most people), but a c-section won't necessarily have an extremely painful aftermath.

I agree with you about not wanting a lot of visitors, though. You've had other children, so you know what to expect about wanting private time with your baby. I just wanted to reassure you about the pain.

You should get quite a few responses on this one, but here is my opinion. This is your child, you do it the way you want or you and your husband want. No excuses....they way you guys want it. If it isn't possible to just tell your Mom or whoever what you have stated in your question....the part about being in too much pain and just wanting to be alone, then do what you feel is necessary to maintain what it is you want. Remember, this is your child,and your way is fine. Let no one tell you differently. Of course your family and loved ones want to be there but if it is going to make it difficult for you, then do what you know and feel is best. End of story.

I know you have so many posts already.

I have had 2 c-cestions. My 1st was born at 33 weeks and it was a Emergency c section was no time to think or blink happened all so fast. He went straight to the NICU my husband got to hold the baby and I got to give him a kiss.
But he was so early. We had to wait till the next morning before I could get up to see him. My family and friends
were called but happened so quickly they came later.

2cd baby was also early 4 weeks but it was planned they did tests to ensure the baby lungs were ok. The baby was born and was fine and got to stay with us.

We went through childbirth classes and was ready for natural delivery but both my children hadn't turned around yet and it was in the best interest for both Mother and baby. It takes alittle longer to recover and you have to becareful not to do to much. My Mom came after we had the baby and was home and was nice to get the help once at home.
Whetther a meal here or helping with the older child.
You should tell her so your husband can keep her informed.
Pray for the health and safety of you both.

I had a c-section and the pain was not all that bad. In fact, I had a friend that had a lot of tearing who had an episiotomy (sp) with a natural childbirth and I feel pretty sure she was in much worse pain than I was. I was up and around by the next day and I was off pain meds before leaving the hospital. And, I breastfed my son very successfully from the very first try until he was one year old. For me, having a c-section did not cause any additional challenges to breastfeeding.

This was our first child and my husband and I just wanted to be alone during the childbirth part. He didn't call until right before I was about to deliver (that turned into emergcy c-section). We had been there since the evening before, but he just told everyone we didn't want to wake anyone up in the middle of the night, so we waited until a reasonable time in the morning. No-one in the family ever gave us any grief over it. You don't have to tell them you had it pre-planned. :)

I am not sure how long you will be in the hospital, but my preference would be to have everyone come for short visits at the hospital rather than all show up at my house as soon as I got home. By that time, all I would want is alone time with my baby, other kids and hubbie. Good luck!

If it were me, I would be up front about when the baby arrived, however, I would let everyone know that you would like to limit visitors and phone calls for the first week. I can't imagine telling my mom or MIL not to be there or even at the house. However, my mom and MIL mainly just did little things around the house to help...and cooked food and cleaned up...that was awesome (while we did the feeding and diapering).

I tried to get people to call the cell phone and not the hospital phone or house phone...at least the cell phone I could turn off. Between breastfeeding, diapering and trying to get an hour of sleep myself, it was difficult to keep up with phone calls...although everyone had great intentions.

We had twins via c-section. You will be a little sore and slow moving maybe, but not that bad.

Have someone you love and trust manage this for you...whether its your mother, husband or sister. Let them help be the liaison for friends and family at first. In the email (or text msg) announcement, just mention that you are not accepting visitors the first week and please limit phone calls to your cell phone.

Wish you the best!

I haven't read the other responses, but you're going to offend some people. I told everyone all through my pregnancy that I didn't want people to show up before the baby was born. I didn't want my husband to have to divide his attention between me and the waiting room. My mother-in-law showed up anyway to say hi. I would just explain the situation... that you have a scheduled c-section (don't have to mention the day) and you will call when you are up for visitors.

have had 2 c's just tell them this time i really don't want the company but you really don't know untill the time happens. just tell them how you feel i am sure they will understand

No, it is not wrong to feel that way. But I don't think it would be your best decision to withhold the birth info if your delivery is scheduled. I would suggest letting them be there the day of the birth. My family (all 12 of them) were thrilled to watch my kids being 'processed' through the nursery. Then tell them you would appreciate if they came back to see the baby once you were home. If your other kids need to be watched, assign them kid duty so they feel like they are being helpful. Good Luck!!

i think its wrong, especially if you are close to your family, this could cause alot of family drama! and if you are going to a good obgyn you should not be in alot of pain. i have had 2 c-sections, they were so easy. now i do believe your husband should ask people to knock, you want your privacy with breast feeding and the nurses will also help with privacy!!! good luck and congrats

I got induced and I didn't tell my family it was going to happen. I told them after I had my daughter that we scheduled an induction, but I wanted to surprise them. It was the best decision I made because I ended up having to have a c-section and the last thing I wanted was visitors, especially when I was trying to breastfeed. You family should respect your decision not to tell and if you do tell they should respect your decision not to have visitors.

I agree with Amber L's post. You are not wrong in what you are feeling. I can understand the fear of the c-section recovery. I do recommend you share this with a select close friend and/or family members. You will need their help early on. You can definitely restrict the visitation times. Both my children were c-sections. My first was breach who did not cooperate with the attempt to turn her. So they took her two weeks early since going into labor could cause it's own complications. The same for my second, except for the breach part. C-sections recovery is not that bad, especially ones that are planned prior to labor. You will be limited on what you can lift at first, including your new baby. This is why you could use the help of close friends or family who can hand your baby to you. Most hospitals will not let you keep your baby in your room without someone else. Since your husband will most likely have to be spending time with the other children, other family members can help. They can even help out with taking care of the older children to allow you and your husband more time with the new baby.

The ultimate decision is yours. You know best if they would hurt by not knowing ahead of time. I do believe you would benefit from thier help.

Good luck and best wishes.
B.

Just my opinion, but I think it would NOT be wise if you didn't tell your family. BUT, if you can express your desires to not have visitors, that would be the best. I hope your family would respect your desires?

As for a C-Section, I don't know if you have had one before, but I had very little pain with mine. I didn't even need the meds at all. I have friends that have experienced a ton more pain having ripped or been cut while having vaginal labor.

Best wishes for whatever you decide.

R.

c-section are not that bad i had 2.. was up the next day... plus they will give you med's in the hospital and i breastfeed also...

good luck!! don't leave your family out...

no its your baby. they might have hurt feelings. you can tell them but let them view the baby from the nursery window. just tell them a time and have the baby sent to the nursery at that time. besides, that'll give a while to rest. i had two csections in less than two years. you'll want to rest or have time to walk around. you'll want to walk if possible. you'll have so much gas that it helps move it around. good luck and congrats!

You feel the way you feel. Don't apologize for it. Make your wishes known (nicely) and ask your family and friends to respect them and come and visit after you and the baby are settled in. You don't need to advertise the particular date of the surgery, it is no one else's business.

With the exception of your mother. You will always be her baby. You can ask her to come after the baby is born instead of before, but do tell her ahead of time that you are having surgery. At least have your husband call her after you are out, he can tell her you prefer that she wait until you call her before she comes to the hospital but be prepared, she will probably come to the hospital anyway. If you are serious about no visitors, including your mother, tell the nurses and they will make sure no one comes in. Your mother will still be able to "be there" "just in case", in the waiting room, which may make her feel better.

I can tell you from personal experience that if, God forbid, something unpleasant should happen to you, your new baby, or one of the other children while you are in surgery, you are going to want YOUR mommy.

C Sections aren't always awful these days, I hope yours goes well. God bless, good luck sweetie.