Is This Odd Behavior?

Updated on December 10, 2007
M.M. asks from Casper, WY
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My son has recently in the past couple months become very obsessed with my breasts. He keeps touching them and stroking them and laying his head on them. Is this normal for kids his age to be doing this. I did breast feed him until he was 8 months old but he will be 2 in Feb. so I dont know what is going on and if this is normal? Thanks

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A.C.

answers from Salt Lake City on

Not only normal but a beautiful reminder that you are raising a tender, loving boy and that he is not afraid of showing his affection for you. It shows that he has been very loved.
Good work.

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C.C.

answers from Boise on

M.,
Your son is exhibiting completely normal behavior for his age. In fact his interest in your breast area is still appropriate up until the age of 4, depending on the maturity level of the child. He is simply exhibiting new ways to bond with you and to find comfort. Additionally he most likely remembers being breast fed and it remains a comfort to him.

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L.H.

answers from Des Moines on

I don't think it's an odd behavior. I think he probably just re-discovered something his Mommy has that Daddy doesn't. Breasts are soft and provide comfort. If it starts to get out of control- like touching other women's breasts or touching yours in public, I might consider finding a gentle way to distract his attention from them- for example, maybe as he goes to touch your breasts, gently take his hands and kiss them and redirect them around your neck for a hug. As for resting his head on them- they probably make a comforting pillow and I wouldn't be too worried about that. Good luck!

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S.A.

answers from Saginaw on

Don't worry, my son just turned three and he's the same way, I think it's just normal for little boys!

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J.O.

answers from Boise on

Not odd at all, all seven of mine were touching them at some point, my boys just seem to be more obsessed with them, my 6 year old will still on occasion walk up and bounce them for a lack of a better word, and like the moms before said I just redirect him and tell him that they are mine and I don't like when he does it, and my 15 1/2 month old thinks they are his personal pillow, I can tell you from expierince(sp) that none of my teenage sons walk around "feeling" them anymore. Just redirect but don't make a big deal of it.

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S.C.

answers from Sioux Falls on

Not at all odd! My son, 16 months, loves to snuggle against them, which is fine with me for now. I had a niece who was completely infatuated with my boobs (I am a LOT larger breasted than my sister lol!) I didnt get to see her much as she was growing up but when I would visit she would love to sit on my lap and rest her head on them, and would try to sneak my shirt up! She grew out of it, at least I think she has, she is 18 now! But its perfectly normal for kids to want to look and touch, you just need to make sure that when they are old enough they understand that it is not okay to touch when they are told no!

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K.H.

answers from Grand Forks on

Hi M.:
My son went through a short faze of this too. He was 3, he's 4 now. I remember one incident where i was undressing in my room and he was asked "what are those?" i told him that they were my breasts then he asked if he could touch them. I just immediately told him no and while it did make me uncomfortable i had to keep in mind that he doesint know any better and it was just him being curious. It didint last very long though. Like i said my son didint get curious until he was 3 so maybe it will last a while with your son? I dont know. Anyway just wanted to let you know that your not the only one and it is normal.
K.

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J.K.

answers from Boise on

I don't feel this is odd behaviour. My youngest was breastfed until about a year and a half old and when he was about your sons age he used to do the same thing. They are kind of possessive about your breasts when they are young sometimes.

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R.W.

answers from St. Cloud on

My daycare kids ALL do that. Even the the four year olds sometimes do. When they get to age four or five I tell them that it is appropriate to ask before touching someone. And we talk a little more about boundaries and personal space. But the younger kids just like it for comfort or curiosity.
(None of them were breastfed except my own kids)

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T.H.

answers from Milwaukee on

I would gently redirect him *every* time. It's not strange at all, but you don't want him to think it's OK either, or he *will* start touching other women.

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S.P.

answers from Great Falls on

My kids both went through a stage like that. My oldest now 11, still has some questions. I don't think their interest is wrong. They are just trying to learn about our differences.
It's normal. When my kids got older I taught them that touching my breasts is like me touching their privates. It's not allowed. My youngest is 8 and already knows not to touch there. Good luck and Happy Holidays.

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T.W.

answers from Lansing on

Normal--both my kids did this. I agree with the others just gently redirect them.

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L.S.

answers from Rochester on

no. my son turned two in nov, he does the same.he has no understanding of them being different then ant other part of th body. but they are comfortable as a pillow.ha ha

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K.Y.

answers from Cheyenne on

HAHA! I found this funny because my 2 yr old twins, right before they turned 2, about the same age as yours (boy and girl), went through about a couple of months or so of this- everytime they saw my breat, whether I was dressing or fixing something, etc, they HAD TO give each breat "sugars"-- they always had to kiss my boobs- there was no saying no to them! LOL! This came after a brief period of them "laughing" at them.
It quit after a little while and they don't even notice them anymore.

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A.M.

answers from Boise on

I also breastfed my children, actually all three. My middle son nursed up to 13 months (he did not want the bottle at all!). He was "attached" to them even for a couple of years. He would sit by me and rest his head there, not intentionally and like to be by them. I think it was a secure spot for him since he was nursed. In your case, it may be because he senses a change and wants that reassurance. I think this is very normal. I wouldn't discourage him, but teach him what is appropriate. When my son tries to touch them now (he's 4), I noticeably & nicely, grab his hand and put it around my waist. I say "you can hug me because I love hugs!" That still invites his affection but redirects it just a little. Congrats on your engagement, and good luck!

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