C.T.
My mom was a single parent and worked long hours when I was growing up and I was like you. I was expected to do all the cleaning, yard work, cooking, etc. I also didn't want to burden my mom. I was always trying my hardest to please the adults around me. My mom, who worked very hard, was always stressed...but her personality is she is quite self centered and controlling which I didn't realize until I became an adult. If I could go back in time I would be less of a "doormat". I suggest you start telling your mom your feelings. OFTEN. You can do it calmly and maturely. Don't worry about her. Start taking care of yourself. Tell her how this is affecting you. Tell her everything you have told us. Don't feel guilty about it. Keep telling her. Cry. Cry in front of her. Let your true feelings show. I regret that I was always "protecting" my mom as a kid and never did this. You are only 14 and this is a LOT to deal with. The good thing is it means you are an amazing person...a hard worker, independent, and dependable. You are doing to go far in life...whatever you set your mind to doing you are going to be great at it! I'm sending you hugs. Hang in there.