Is My Daycare Neglecting My Child

Wow. I would call CPS and licensing! I don't care if it was out of the norm, they need not be in the business of caring for kids.
Good luck.

WHAT?? This is making me angry just reading this! What a horrible and cruel thing to do to a child.

I would call the local childcare council (or something similar) and let them know what happened. I don't think they will file an official report, but you never know.

Written up? That girl should be let go. Immediately... as in "don't let the door hit you on the way out"!

ohhh im on fire! i would report immediately! dont talk to the director, she will just make sure her A** is protected! take your child out right away!

That is terrible. I would have a talk with the owner/director or whomever is in charge. No child should be humiliated because of a potty accident.

I have told kids that they need to be responsible for changing themselves, but this is usually when they are 3 or older and are able to use the potty and don't choose to. There is no laughing about it and the child is given privacy to do it. And I assist to make sure that they are clean afterwards.

If this is a behavioral program they are using for potty training it is not a good one. Yes.... I believe that I would be in someone's office getting some answers, and I'd likely be looking for another care environment.

Report them! There is no excuse for humilating your son, and leaving him alone unable to help himself in such a state. Horrible, horrible! And find another daycare immediately!

I would speak to the director immediately and ask why it was acceptable to laugh at a child who had an accident and not help him. To leave him to be shamed by everyone. How old is your son?

I would be looking for another daycare arrangement but I would also not let this go unreported.

My DD is 4 and has had accidents at school. They are not phased at all. They help her clean up and change and just alert me that there are clothes to wash in her bag.

ETA: Check your contract and see what financial penalties you might face for moving him as quickly as possible. You might tell the director that you consider this a breach of contract and see if they just let you go or will offer a prorated refund if you leave before the end of the month or whatever your payment plan is. I think you are making your point by taking him elsewhere.

You said, "teachers" so IMO they are all to blame even if one person was the main person who left him hanging. I would tell the director that more than this one person, the entire staff failed to step up when they saw something wrong. If this is so out of character, why didn't another teacher help him?

You need to call DHS to report it. They will then investigate the center again because of the claim. DHS in Tulsa also has a website that you can use to look up the daycare center to find out if they have had any other claims or violations. If you decide to change providers it is good to look at the website before choosing a new one to see if it has had any complaints or violations. DHS also randomly checks the centers I think once a year. I feel very sorry for your son!

Oooh, I would be fuming, I am fuming. Poor li'l guy. I'm so glad you found another place, don't pay them another dime. And yes, report them. If they're listed on the BBB write a complaint there too so you can warn other parents.

That's unforgiveable! Your poor little guy standing there feeling so horrible while people laughed at him. I have a knot in my throat just thinking about how he must have felt. Thankfully it doesn't sound like you were too far behind so the humiliation didn't last too terribly long.

All I can say is that is horrible and if there were any way for me to let ALL of the parents know about this, I would.

So very sorry for your little guy. Please hug him tightly for me!

This makes my heart ache for your little guy! How sad. Glad to see you are going to take further action and that you are re-locating him. I run a home daycare and I know that this type of thing would never be tolerated!!! BUT, I would never treat a child this way...unforgivable.

Children should be treated w/ respect and courtesy...where do adults think they learn it from! I hope your son is not scarred by this and afraid to use the potty or afraid to tell someone if he has an accident.

Wow, this is apalling. I would've removed my kid, too.

I literally feel ill after reading your post-I hope your little boy realizes that everyone has accidents!! and I would do what I could to see that the teacher apologizes and gets punished for what she did. Years ago, my friend and her sister went out with a guy who had taken his dad's car for the evening. The sister, in the back, suddenly said, " oh my gosh, whatever you do , don't make me laugh"-with that, one of them said something that cracked her up to such an extent that she wet all over the back of the dad's Porsche! Ouch! Several years ago, it happened to me-I was at lunch with my sister-we sat at the bar and the bartender kept refilling my iced tea (which, to this day, I do not drink). My sister went to the loo before we left, but I did not. When we got outside, I said, "Don't make me laugh". my sister said, "why, are you going to wet your pants?" With that, I entirely wet my pants-in front of a bank, and it was winter-so you could see steam rising off my jeans!!!!! I got in the car, peeled them off and wrapped myself in the blanket that belonged to the dog. When I walked in my sister's house, the cleaning lady looked at me and I said..."Don't ask". I guess the lesson here is to be comfortable laughing at yourself-and when others laugh at you, and not with you, that's wrong and mean and not the way we are intended to treat each other. xoxo!

I can not believe this happened!!

I had a kindergartner in my care have an accident earlier this fall, it happens. I was nothing but loving and supportive and we talked about trying to get up and go a little sooner next time, etc. She was sooooo upset.

I certainly feel for your little guy, I'm glad you arrived to help him out of a terrible situation.

M.

If this is out of the norm for him and the teacher was reprimanded he may be fine going back. He is familiar with them and he has friends. I would see how he handles being there again. I would make sure to still report this though. The director would know that you did it but you can bet if her child was treated like this she would do it too.

They made a huge mistake but the new place you found might look nice on the surface but be like this or even worse. If he has been happy and usually loves going then please take a few days to see how he responds when you take him back. If he's okay with it he might be happier staying if they are reprimanded enough and don't do it again.

it's just a thought but if they know you know they messed up and that you reported them they are going to make sure to not make even a tiny mistake with your son again. He will get excellent care now.

E.,

I am so sorry this happened to your little boy. That is awful!!!! Daycare and pre-schools should be helping your son with potty training not shaming and laughing at him. He was abused by them and they should be reported and whoever facilitated this to happen should be fired. I hope that your son doesn't have issues to come with using the restroom because of this. I am so so sorry. I just read your what happened, and am happy you found a new place. I would also write a little post on YELP.com or similar site to notify other parents of this shady practice. They shouldn't be doing this to children.

This was very out of the norm for this daycare.

My son is 4 and fully potty trained, but accidents still happen though in his case pretty infrequently. It was just extremely bad and what makes me sad is that he just hugged me and started sobbing when I got there. A daycare should provide caring, and protection. None of which he received. We have already found a new place. Thankfully! And yes, I will be reporting this. They said it was out of the norm and the apologized profusely, but I don't want this happening again to another little kid. :(