Birth is painful, toddler hood is painful and so must being a teenager. If you look at it, each time a child presses for more independence, it's a painful process. When they're born you're truly -and literally- attached to each other, it hurts to separate, but it must be done for the baby's and mother's health. When they're toddlers and going through the 'me do it' phase, it's hurtful and a pain, but both parents and kids need it in order to start establishing the child as an independence being, able to take on tasks for themselves. With teens, it's the same process to finally obtain adulthood. Not that it makes it easier.
Your child doesn't 'hate' you, they love you tremendously, more than any other time of their life, but they are in the process of separating from you and finding their own identity. It's a natural process.
As long as you remain centered and realize your child is figuring out their own person, which means in part, rejecting you, not as a bad thing, but as a natural thing, you'll be fine.
It's why the first few years of parenting are the most critical! It's where you instill your values and set your child up on the right course....by the time they're teenagers, it's like setting butterflies free. If you've done your job, and done it well, they'll be self confident, if self absorbed, people in need of guidance rather than parenting. GL!
And read some of the books mentioned:)