Is It Possible for Kids to Act One Way at Mom's Then Another Way at Dad's?

YES
Kids even do that, in the SAME house with BOTH parents there at the same time.
It is not, unusual.

Sounds like part of it may be the perception of the parent. If the son is just like mom, of course mom is going to think that is great, and dad (who is an ex of mom I assume) may not think being just like mom is a good thing, ya know?

Absolutely. My stepsons were totally like this when it came to Mom's vs. Dad's. And they are totally different apart vs. when they are together. I will also vouch for my daughter acting differently for me vs. her dad and we are both married to each other and living in the same house! She is also much more cooperative for her teachers, other caretakers, etc. than she is for me! Sometimes it's about what each parent expects, or will or will not put up with. Or it could be a little bit of rebellion against one parent vs. the other. Or just knowing they can push someone's buttons as opposed to those that they know they can't or shouldn't.

Absolutely! We are all products of our environments. When the environment changes, so changes the attitudes/behaviors. I had that situation with my daughter in school. I never had any problems with her at home. She was respectful, did what she was told, got along well with everyone, just generally a good kid who was fun to be around. BUT apparently when she got to school, it was a different ball game. I spent several years in total confusion because what the school/teachers told me about her behavior, did not jive with what I saw at home. It is very difficult to punish and change a behavior you've never seen! So, yes, I think it is possible for kids to act one way in one setting and be completely different in another.

absolutely- alot of times they act are reacting to their surroundings.

Yep, my daughter does this, and we are still married! She would be fine all day and as soon as my husband came home, here came the whiney monster. Normal I think.

That's like asking is it possible for kids to act one way at school and another at home. Goes without question actually.

Absolutely. Kids that are way out of line at home might toe the line at school. It depends on what's expected of them. While some of it might be the perception of the parent, I think kids play the role they are given in each home. My SD is not the neatest person but stories from SS about their bathroom at their other house make my toes curl. Why? Because she can.

I'm also with DVMMOM that kids can even play parents in the same house. I'm much more no-nonsese than DH when it comes to DD and she so has him wrapped around her finger. She doesn't get away with everything, but it's definitely a different conversation between her and him than if I were dealing with it.

yup. my daughter would do that. act one way at home......and then after being with dad for a week would be a total terror. took me 2 1/2 weeks to get her normal again......this went on from 2-5. good luck

My DD is 4 and we live together - still she will behave completely different for my DH or me, when we do something with her by ourselves. Is it possible: absolutely.

My kids do that to a point and they live with both parents. It's just if daddy is home they act differnt for him then if he's not and I want the to do something. It drives me nuts. They do that with my mom's house too. I mom treats my oldest like he hung the moon and can do no wrong. And he will do anything she asks of him but if I ask him it's like pulling teeth. It's all in how the parents or grandparent's relationship and interaction is with the child.

absolutely!

in fact, think about yourself in different situations. you don't act the same at work, church, pta meetings, etc, as you do at home, out with your girlfriends, etc, do you?

that's why it's important you both parent the kids, too. i'm not saying you don't, but kids act how they are expected to act. my niece is a prime example. her parents have chosen to battle her over food. result- she digs in her heels and refuses to eat anything, whines, fusses, gets sulky...she is five btw. at my house, i served the kids a healthy lunch and she immediately began with "i'm not HUNGRY." and i said, "okay, then don't eat". she looked at me like i had horns sprouting out of my head. and about 30 seconds later she ate her whole plate.

kids are so funny. the funny thing is so many parents think they have no control, and want to know how to "get" their kid to change...when in fact, it's themselves that are creating the situation to begin with. you can't expect your child to "change" when you are the cause, you know? not saying that against you and your husband. i just mean in many cases, when kids are truly awful for one person but totally fine for another person. there are tons of posts on here about that.

Yep...

My best friends' son is six. When he is at moms house, there are schedules and routines. He must use manners and respect everyone. At dads, he is crazy! B doesn't need to brush his teeth or bathe, he doesn't use his manners, and sasses adults without getting corrected.

This isn't second hand info on dads house, I have been there when he is with his dad. His mom is my best friend, and my husbands cousin. His dad is my cousin and my husbands best friend. Crazy to live in a small town!

Absolutely!!

I have a nephew that acts all needy and needs this and that and has to be waited on to the point where he lets you brush his teeth and if you want would let you wipe his butt when he's around the Grandparents, but when he's around his Dad is all 'macho' and can do things for the most part himself.