we rented a big house and would pay for it totally. they would have to pay for gas to and from and their own costs while there.
I don't know their finances and i don't want to burden them. they are being assigned so far away we won't see them again(probally) so i am not worrying about ruining the friendship or them expecting us to pay for everything forever. on the day hubby works, i would need to ride with them to the amusement places. We plan on doing one expensive thing and we would buy all the tickets for it as a treat.
We really like them and i am the only friend she has made here. our girls play so great. I have only known them 5 months.
Has anyone ever done this or been invited to stay somewhere? any advice is welcome.
we are shy to do it because friends we thought we knew once met us at a resort and they drank and stayed up very late, they slept in and were no fun.
Why not?
Pool money for food, agree that any/all activities are optional for everyone and plan O. or two nights for family only--that will give everyone some breathing room. Have fun!
If you want them to come, invite them, but do not expect them to cater to your desires as it sounds you expected the first family to do. Many people enjoy staying up late and having a few drinks and sleeping in while on vacation.
Sounds wonderful, if you can afford it and have the room. Because of past experience, prepare for that. Tell them that you have rented a place for vacation, this is when and where you are going and your intentions for planned activities (including times to be up and out of the house). Tell them you would love for them to join you. Spell out that you would cover the accommodations and the expensive thing that would be your treat. Tell them if there are certain things you would expect of them (this is a family vacation so no late "partying" and ride to the certain places). Ask if they would be up for it.
We do similar trips a couple times a year except with camping instead of renting a house. We reserve 2 campsites side-by-side and take our travel trailer and SIL/BIL's pop-up camper. My husband tows one and I tow the other. We invite friends to come with us. We ask that everyone pitches in with food and BYOB. We usually do one or two touristy type things and a meal out and everyone just pays their way for those things.
We spend the days and evening having a blast together with the kids, then the kids go to bed and the adults sit around the campfire drinking and relaxing. We usually go to bed around 3 or 4 AM and are back up with the kids between 7 and 8. Everyone has a blast and asks when we're doing it again!
I think you should invite me! LOL! :D
Honestly, I think you should! It's incredibly generous of you to offer to do all of that for them! I would straight up tell them what your expectations are. Tell them that you would appreciate a ride on the day that your husband works. But also leave a day or two for THEM to do what they want to, even if that includes staying up all night or sleeping all day.
Maybe just plan a day or two of activities to do all together. Of course anything they do on their own they would be expected to pay for. It would give each family a little alone time. Being with someone, even someone you love, 24/7 when you're not used to it can be rough.
If you can have a 'Go with the flow' type attitude, invite them! Sounds Fun!
We love vacationing with our friends. We usually all pay our way, but occasionally, we will share our time share as a place to stay. We never expect anything in return, but our friends will cover dinner a couple of nights to express their gratitude.
I say go for it! IT is fun vacationing with others. Just make sure everyone has their privacy.
I've found 3+ families works best in my own life IF I want to be able to relax/ do what I would do on my own. That way no family feels "bound" to the other, and people can get together/ form mini groups (1 group for hiking, another for cooking, etc.), take some private time, etc. without burdening the 'other' family (singular). With 2 families alone, there is a lot of pressure to be doing everything together and the "differences" between families becomes really apparent/chafing.
When I'm on vacation I usually alternate between sleeping very late and getting up very early. When it's just another family ONE of us is inconviencing the other, but when there are 3 or more families, it doesn't matter if a couple people sleep late, because the early risers are together. Ditto in reverse... night owls aren't left alone and bored, tip toeing about.
I've DONE 2 family trips (fun), but there really needs to be a lot of consensus or forgiveness.
Anyhow... just my experience.
Sharing a house or cabin has to be with someone you know pretty well. Like you said, you've been burned before. It's your judgment call. Very nice of you to do it :)
Go for it. I sounds fun.
I wouldnt do it just cause you know by past experience. When you invite someone to something you are agreeing to pay ALL expenses unless you have a contract stating it to be a financial agreement. And how would you add no alcholic beverages or staying up late? No I wouldnt invite anyone. Your biteing off more than you can chew!
