Insatiable Sexual Appetite

I wouldn't call it an addiction, I would call it selfish behavior. How come everything becomes an addiction as soon as they get caught?! His behavior sucks and he needs to be accountable for his behavior instead of hiding behind an "addiction". I wouldn't think there would be a way back from this when he doesn't sound a bit remorseful. I'm glad to hear his brother is upset with him too.

He puts her LIFE in danger when he sleeps around. He could bring home any disease. Perhaps that knowledge could help keep it in his pants.

He can't say it won't happen again? That's not love. That's not respect. That's not a marriage. Out the door. There is no support. He can't be remorseful when he can't even say it won't happen again.

The Man/Her Husband has MEGA PSYCHOLOGICAL problems.
Sexual Addiction, is only 1 facet of it.
He also has no sense of guilt for harming her for his adultery, and after all these years, he has no remorse for making her do whatever HE wants, sexually, even if it has hurt her or put her health at risk.

Again, sexual addiction, is only 1 of his many psychological problems and issues.

Kick him to the curb.

She can also get sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS etc.
Who knows.

now, please don't jump all over me... but i know exactly how hubs feels. i haven't been married for 15 years but... i had serious sexual issues, and i would sleep with a new man every day almost... being in a relationship rarely stopped me. it took me many years in counseling to overcome this. now i'm in a happy relationship that i haven't nor will i ever cheat. i honestly reccomend not only couples counseling but a sex therapist as well. it is hard to overcome something like this in a relationship. but if they honestly love each other, they should try to work through this.

she can resign herself to being treated like this the rest of her life - or she can find something better for herself. he's not going to change. she has bent over backwards (no pun intended) to please him and it's not going to work. he is who he is. she needs to let him go or accept him as he is.

It's called being a Sex Addict.

They need couples therapy and he needs individual therapy. No magic words of wisdom here will change anything in their lives.

My father had an affair and we think he may have had many more than just the one that my mom found out about. At first my mom wanted to stay with my dad, and they tried counseling. He never stopped seeing the woman and they eventually divorced. I think it's really easy to say that she should be done with him, but it's a whole different ball game when it's happening to you. Bottom line is, your cousin has to do what feels right for her and her family, and the best thing that you can do for her is support her in whatever decision she makes, even if you think it's the wrong one. And then be there when she needs you! Good luck to both of you. It is a crappy thing to have to go through!

If she feels there is hope and she wants to make a go of it I agree that a sex therapist is in order. If she has been happily married what is the harm in trying. However, if she wants to leave I would certainly understand.

Listen to her. Don't advise too much. Help her make her own decision.

Sounds like a man with no morals and no respect for your cousin. She would have to have little respect for herself to remain in that relationship. She needs to set an example for her children - you do not allow yourself to be treated poorly by anyone.

He's an addict. He needs help (not in any way taking up for his behavior).

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She should leave. Obviously he doesn't care about her enough to worry about her feelings and if she lets him do it, she'll be accepting it and he'll keep sleeping around. I find him disgusting personally. To me, that's not a real man that goes doing around other people saying things like this to his wife and a mother of his children. She should by NO means NEVER accept this and this will only get worse. She needs to leave no matter how hard. It'll easier than watching him and living through hell.

Does your cousin not think of breaking this relationship while it's early and before she gets hurt some more? The husband won't stop and I can tell you from experience that he'll constantly find other women to satisfy him.

If he's not so sorry about it as to say he will ensure it doesn't happen again... then it's time to leave or ask herself if she can live with a souse who doesn't love and respect her enough to stay as faithful as she is.

You said he seems "remorseful"? When? When he said, "there is no more exciting sex than sex with someone new!"? Or when he said, "he can't say it won't happen again"? He's not remorseful! And by saying these things and her not doing anything about it, she is giving him permission to do it again! And he WILL do it again. And again. And again. It's time for her to let him know how she feels. Kick his sorry a$$ to the curb!

I am sorry for your cousin, but once they had a taste they always want it again. I am talking from my experience. She needs to know its not her, and no matter how crazy she gets in bed. It will NEVER be enough. This is ony going to get worst. Now she is probably be thinking about him doing this again all day. I know I did.