Hi,
I just wanted to point out that an 8 week old baby that is 5 weeks premature is really only developmentally 3 weeks old. Also, premature infants require more calories than full-term babies. It is extremely difficult to feed a baby every hour emotionally, physically and mentally especially if this feeding is complicated by a difficult birth, surgical birth and especially baby blues or postpartum depression. It sounds like your friend needs some help! Some things that can be done for her:
*Offer to put together a team of people or even go over yourself for a time period (ex.6-12 hours) and take care of the baby in between feedings so that she can get some sleep.
*Encourage her that IT WILL PASS. It is VERY difficult to take care of children, especially infants that have a lot of needs, but it will get better and she will be happy to have stuck it out.
*Offer to help out with housework, errands and chores so that all she has to do is just focus on her baby.
*Hire a postpartum doula (a professional who does the above listed things)
*Check up with her often about depression. The chances of getting PPD are greatly increased from lack of sleep and difficult birth experiences.
If your friend is able to relax and just take care of her baby, or even just feed the baby and spend some time with her/him when she feels up to it she may find the strength to be able to get through this time.
I hope all goes well here. Please let us know how this works out!
D. Rylander, Birth Doula
A Blessed Birth Doula Services
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