The easiest way to post this question is to post a text conversation between myself and some guy that I don't know. Bear in mind that this person is in Idaho, and I have been on the other side of the country for over a year now.
~Hey Im Michael you left a note on my mustang
-I didn't...
~Are you christina?
-Ya. But I didn't leave anyone any notes.
~K. someone poseing as you left a note on my car with your name and number asking to call you. Sorry to bother you this is odd, sorry again.
-No Problem.
~Do you know who would do that? They left a pretty provocative message and said someone in Boise told you about me?
-I'm not sure... I don't know anyone in Boise. Where was your car?
~In Walmart, a R. mustang the one on 500 s utah av in Idaho Falls
-Hmm. I'm not sure. What did the note say? Did it have my full or just my first name?
~Just your first name and number, and some stuff about a friend in Boise telling you that I was 'great'.
-Was everything spelled right? Lol Seems like a stupid question, but will help me rule out some people I'm thinking of.
~I think so. I can scan a copy of it and email it to you if that helps?
-Sure. I'll check it out tomorrow (my email address here)
~K. Sorry about this again. Ill get it to you tomorrow.
-No problem.
~If you wouldn't mind texting me when you sort it out, I'm a bit bothered by this. You are 18, right? It had some sexual stuff in it and I wouldn't want to send it to a minor.
-Ya, I'll let you know. I'm not a minor so no worries.
~Sorry, I don't mean to seem paranoid. I'm just freaked out a bit by all this you know. Thanks, and have a good night.
-Ya no problem. I'm trying to figure out if it's someone screwing with me, or just a prank.
~Ya. I have an ex in Boise who likes screwing with me, so this whole thing is odd.
That was the end of the conversation. I'm still waiting for him to send me a copy of the note (I gave him my 'junk' email address, just in case. lol.) I have a couple of friends that used to think it was funny to give my number out to guys, but that was when I was single, and they never made it sexually explicit. This guy seemed pretty disturbed by the note, so I'm thinking it must be pretty bad. I would really like to get to the bottom of this, because I feel like it crosses a line. I'm sure that if it is someone I know I will be able to figure it out when I see the note, because the only people I can think of who would do this all have very distinct handwriting and style of wording things on paper. I can't really confront anyone about this until I know for sure. It actually pisses me off that someone would give my number out with sexual innuendos... Especially since I am NOT single any more. I would like to confront the person, IF I can figure out without a doubt who it is... because I feel like they have overstepped the boundaries of a prank. Am I overreacting? How would you broach this if it happened to you and you know who did it? (I won't confront anyone over it unlesss I am 100% sure it's them.)
I will post the origional note when I get it... see if that changes anything...
Just a note... I didn't give him my 'real' email address. I gave him a fake one I created... using all fake info... for the purpose of giving stores and spammers who want an email address. I can get into the account, but it is not actually linked to me in any way. Also, he already knew my name, so I guess that I did confirm that if he wasn't sure, but I didn't give him any new information. I also didn't tell him that I am living out of state. As far as he knows, I'm in Idaho still. (I have an ID. number, and his number was also ID.) My fiance was there when I was getting these texts, so he does know about them. The reason I am so bothered it because I do know 4 people who would actually do this to me... 2 would do it as a prank, and 2 as a way to screw with me. So it is very possible that he really did get a note, and if that is the case I would like to know who did it. If it's not, and this is just some creepy guy, he has no way of knowing where I really am. Heck, my phone isn't even in my own name... Also, the crazy ex part was the last text he sent me, when I stopped replying. I don't have any crazy ex's. lol.
Another note... The main reason I want to find out so much if it IS one of the 4 I have in mind is because 1. If it's one of my friends thinking it would be funny, I want to let them know that it's not ok. The two I have in mind there have done it before, and laughed about it when I told them about a random call or text. They thought it was funny then, and while I told them not to they may have decided to try it anyway. IF it is one of them, and I ask them not to, they will stop (for a while, anyway.) If it's NOT the first 2, and is one of the other two I have in mind, I would like to document this as their doing, since they have been harrasing and putting me through a lot of trouble for the last year and a half. I have a folder on my computer of all the stuff they have been doing, and if this is their doing I want to add it to that. If it's not one of those 4, and this guy keeps trying to contact me or anything, I will probably change my number. and let it go.
Ooh, talk about being uncomfortable. I'd let it go and stop communicating with this guy; the worst thing for a prankster is when there is ZERO reaction. Forget it ever happened and don't feed into it anymore; don't give them that satisfaction.
It's a prank. If a person left a phone number and name to call you, he did and you said it wasn't you, what else is there to know. If he is paranoid, that's his issue to get over it.
If this was someone he KNEW, and it happened to be an emergency or it bothered him so much, he would know HOW and WHO to get in touch with.
Stop responding!
My guess is no one left this guy a note. Think about it, do you know any decent (no serial killer types) men that would text a woman who left a sexually explicit note with her name and number when they haven't ever met her. A normal man would have thrown it away.
I would change my phone # if I were you, you made a huge mistake by telling this guy who you are and giving him your email address.
Why did you continue this conversation? You do realize that you just gave a potential hacker your email address, likely the correct spelling of your name, probably access to all of your accounts and I can only guess what else.
I would never have responded to this or engaged in communication in any way.
The saying "curiosity killed the cat" holds very true.
You could get strung along and God knows what else while you are focusing on trying to get to the bottom of who started it.
Prank or no prank, the joke is still on you for falling for it and putting this much energy into it.
Just my opinion.
You have no idea there ever was a note.
You have no idea he really is in Idaho.
I moved and didn't change my cell phone number - I'm not where the area code makes you think I am.
He confirmed your phone number when you admitted who you were and now you gave him your email.
You gave him permission to send you something.
It's not that you are over reacting, it's the focus of what you are reacting to that's all wrong.
You do know what phishing is, right?
He's pumping you for info and I can't think of anything good that can come from this.
I had a similar experience. Someone texted me and said that my # was on their phone (someone had called from my phone). I immediatly thought it was someone phishing. I was very vague and got some info from him. Turns out I had called his #. We buy goat milk for one of my daughters and I was trying to call the lady we buy from. I didn't know her cell phone number had changed. Someone did answer his phone, but it was a friend of his and the friend didn't tell the phone owner about it. So, here we are at 10pm, some guy I don't know calling me to find out who I am and why I called his phone. It took several minutes to get it all straight, but the whole time I was worried that I was on the phone with a wierdo who had just randomly called my number. (which is what I think happened to you. he was phishing to see if you were gullible enough to scam)
no you are not over reacting, my motto is never give out anyone's number without the permission of the owner of that phone number. i'd be ticked too!
I'd be ticked...but not ticked enough to go to this extent. I would have left it at the "No Problem" phase.
I know its hard, but just ignore it. Your partner obviously knows you didnt write the note. Even if you find out who did it, your better than them and shouldnt waste your time or breath on them. Also, who knows, this could be a way of this strange guy trying to stalk you, dont give him any info! Not even your name.
Hmm is not too hard to take a random name and look for his/her phone number and now he also have your e-mail. Just be careful and don't reply any more. When you send things from your smart phone like pics, they can see where exactly are you.
I'd be upset that somehow a stranger got my phone number and there was an explicit note from me.
My "what ifs" would be..... is the stranger over 18?
I would save the text conversation and phone number that came to you. It's possible that you may be able to trace his number.
You probably can't do anything about it, but hold on to your info just in case you need it later. Maybe this person will send a copy of the note to you and hopefully that will help sort things out.
If it had been me, I would not have continued the conversation.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Hi R.,
It's weird....
I don't know that I would have given out any email address to a stranger. Now this person has your telephone number and an email for you. From that can they get your address? I am not techie by any means so am not sure. It could have been someone down the street playing a prank - or, it could be someone in another state playing a prank - either way - creepy.
I find the question asking whether you are over 18 the most disturbing.
I would suggest that you have no more contact with this person....make of a not of the number they texted from, keep the text conversation saved in your phone - keep a hard copy of the email if you get a one - and then just let it go.
Let your hubby know about it also. Just to be on the safe side.
I would have just hung up and ignored any further calls from that number!
The advice I'm going to give is two-fold and will SOUND like I'm contradicting myself - however, I would like to listen with an open mind.
Don't stress over this. You have an ex who likes messing with you? Change your number. Contact your cell phone company as well as your land line provider and just simply state you need your phone number changed for security reasons. Yes, they have overstepped a boundary - however, if you LET them get you riled up, they have won.
In a journal or folder - keep a copy of the text, etc and the phone number. So if it happens again - you have proof of stalking or some other charge. be vigilant when you park your car (I lived in Europe during Desert Storm) make a mental note of cars parked around you. Check your car BEFORE you get into it. it's called OPSEC (Operational Security) and you should practice it EVERY day. Notice cars following you, notice people following you. NOT JUST BECAUSE of this instance - but because being prepared is better than being caught off guard.
Don't confront anyone. Why? Because you have just let them know that you are upset by their actions - you have just given them power over you. Be aware. Be vigilant. Don't be a victim. A victim acts scared and predators love scared victims!
Thats messed up, funny but messed up. What if it would have gotten in the hands of some pshyco? Once you get it print it and when you know who it is, hand it to them.
Just had to comment- even a fake email that you think cannot be traced to you-you CAN be traced by the IP address you used to send information from that address. Also, most newer phones have a GPS chip installed in them, for emergencies, like if you were stuck on a mountain or kidnapped. Any basic geek could track you down that way. Food for thought.
Yes, I would have left this one alone. Whether it's from someone you know or not doesn't matter, you want no part in it at all.
If you respond, it works. If you don't, it won't. Let it go and move on with your life.
C.
I also see many R. flags in this situation. If you do have a 'crazy' ex, this could be his handiwork. I don't think any one else would go to this extent. However, I also wonder if there really was ever any note. It sounded a lot like this guy was fishing for information.
No matter what the situation, it is totally weird and creepy. If it's legit and you figure out who wrote the note, I would just let it go. Don't get involved in all this. This "Michael" will happily let it go and you won't add any more fuel to the fire from your "prankster". If you start noticing weird things in your email, bank accounts or anything else, contact the police.
