In Need of Advice - Clearwater,FL

Hi R.: First off, big hugs to you! It's always so hard to know what to do, esp when your child can't tell you exactly what's wrong. Maybe you can start ruling out some things? Maybe one day, go back half way thru the workout and peek in the window of the daycare and see how she is doing without her seeing? Is she happy? What's taking place? Are the other kids playing nice? (Does she play often with other little ones that might take her toys and such to know how to interact when that happens, etc?) Does she like the activities? Also, maybe talk to the caregiver (is it always the same one)? I feel my kids like consistency and since I'm a SAHM and can give them that when most of the time, the prefer the same caregiver when I can't be there. I've also read that separation anxiety can peak again around 18 months - so that might add to it. BTW, I do agree with you, I wouldn't sneak out of the room, either. Anyhow, best of luck to you and let us know how it goes!

I was talking to a mommy friend about this same thing. She told me that my daughter was going through another seperation phase. She is 19 months. She is ok when I leave her with Daddy but will not leave my side when I try to leave her at the gym. I know my gyms kid center is ok since my son 4 yrs has no problem there. He would not like it if caregiver did something wrong to him or his sister.

Hey R.,
Welcome to the area! I hope you like it. I have an almost 15 month old. I have been taking her to the gym since she was 3 months old and she goes through stages where she will sometimes still cry when I leave. Does your daughter stop crying quickly after you are gone? Is she verbal enough to tell you what is wrong? You never know but I doubt that anything unusual or harmful is happening in that enviroment, b/c there are parents in and out all the time and I dont know about your gym but there are alot of windows in ours so that people see in there. Also there are 2 attendants on at all times. I would say to stick with it. I am sure she is just adjusting to the idea and maybe testing to see what she can do. You need that time and exercising is so important for you mentally and physically. I would just kiss her goodbye and tell her to have fun and you will see her in an hour or so. Maybe give her something of your to hold for you while you are gone??
Best of luck!
L.

R....Instead of Working out for one day...sit back and watch how the caregiver treats your child.
It may very wel be that she is being mistreated OR it can just be she is starting to realize your gone fore over a hour and she misses you. Listen to your child at all times there may be something wrong and she feels it or sees it.
VERY IMPORTANT M. OK!
need help let me know.

i do agree with Melodi that we have to listen to our children and make sure there is not something else going on. but i will tell you that she is at an age where she could be experiencing seperation anxiety. i have been through it with each of my three boys (still going though it with the 2 year old from time to time). it is normal, she may do this for a couple of weeks and then stop and out of nowhere she may start again. i would make sure that she is not being mistreated or that they person in charge of the Kids Korner is not yelling or just being mean to the children, but she could definitely could be having seperation anxienty. hope this helps.